Your One-A-Month Sex Bucket List

20 creative things to do every month to spice up your sex life.


Whether you’ve always stuck to the basics in bed and you’d like to try something new or your previously exciting sex life has fizzled, there are plenty of ways to shake things up between the sheets. Here’s our “Bucket List” of sexy activities. If you do even just 10 of these per month, you’ll be sure to have a happy partner and a hot sex life.

Try this: Print this page and cut each activity out separately with scissors so you have 20 little pieces of paper. Put the whole list in an actual bucket, and pull one out every few mornings, making sure your partner reads it too. That way, you can spend all day looking forward to participating in the chosen Bucket List item that evening.

Your One-A-Month Sex Bucket List

Bucket List: #1. Wear Sexy Lingerie

To get your man’s pulse racing, surprise him at the door when he gets home from work in a lacy teddy or a corset, garter, stockings, and high heels—or whatever makes you feel sexy. If a very revealing get-up makes you feel too self-conscious, opt for a baby doll or chemise—these sexy garments tend to flatter every body type as they don’t pinch or squeeze in the wrong places.

Bucket List: #2. Perform a Striptease

While you’re wearing that lacy number, why not put it to good use? Pick your favorite sexy song (“You Can Leave Your Hat On” by Joe Cocker and “Pony” by Ginuwine are good choices), turn down the lights, and have your partner sit on a chair or the couch. Trace sexy circles with your hips, bend over and touch your toes, and straddle his lap—bring those moves you’ve seen in movies and music videos to life. If you want to tease him even more, tell him he’s not allowed to touch you until the striptease is over.

Bucket List: #3. Leave the Bedroom

If you wait until you crawl between the sheets at the end of a long day to have sex and go through the same old motions, you’re likely to get bored. Get it on in the kitchen, on the dining table, on the couch, in the laundry room, or anywhere else that feels new and exciting. Be spontaneous, but pick your moments wisely—if your partner’s finishing an important report for work, you might get rejected.

Your One-A-Month Sex Bucket List

Bucket List: #4. Take it Outside

Having sex in a public place like a park, beach, public bathroom, or (parked!) car will add the extra thrill of knowing you could get caught. It’s a good idea to have a blanket on hand if you’re doing it in the great outdoors to avoid getting sand or twigs in your delicate parts. Plus, it will give you something to cover up with if someone shows up unexpectedly. But be aware that having sex in public is illegal in most places, so don’t blame me if you get busted!

Bucket List: #5. Get Wet ‘n’ Wild

Slip into the shower when your partner’s already in there for a wet and sexy encounter. Because the water is likely to wash away any natural lubrication, it’s best to arm yourself with a silicone-based lubricant, which won’t dissolve in water and will make it a more comfortable experience for both of you. You can also try having sex in a pool, lake, bath, or hot tub, but some health experts warn that it can cause chafing, vaginal infections, and condom breakage, so proceed at your own risk.

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Sabrina is the author of 'A Fantastic Sex Life… And How to Get It!' Her work has been published in numerous print magazines and websites, including Women’s Fitness, Men’s Fitness, Men’s Health,, Good Health, Australian Women’s Weekly, body+soul, Runner’s World, Kidspot, ninemsn Health & Wellbeing, FHM (monthly “Ask Sabrina” column), MAXIM, Ralph, Eat Fit and ZOO Weekly.

Reader Discussion: 152 Comments

  1. Avatar of Christiaan


    I love the idea off a sex bucket list, think it can make sex more interesting and exciting. Must admit that some of the things we have done but have never engaged in a threesome and it is something that we both fantasize about and talk about, unfortunately here in South Africa people are still very conservative when it comes to sex.

  2. Avatar of paco


    How sad is this list? My wife and I did most of these within the first year of dating. If this list is something you need to spice up your sex life, you are really missing out on how good sex can be with each other.

  3. Avatar of Ruby Collins

    Ruby Collins

    My husband and I don’t have that time to have sexual intercourse. It’s sad, but I do miss him. Whenever I’m in the mood, he’s not. I think I need this to spice up our love time. I hope it works.

  4. Avatar of David Ramirez

    David Ramirez

    I will try these! Damn, these are interesting. I like the playing of food. I will try putting ice cream on her body and slowly lick it. Isn’t that nice?

  5. Avatar of Mildred Davis

    Mildred Davis

    Cross things off your sexual bucket list before you start having back and knee problems.

  6. Avatar of Jane Reed

    Jane Reed

    Sex on a balcony on Bourbon Street is on my sexual bucket list. Also sex in the cab like in Taxicab Confessions. I always wanted to do that.

  7. Avatar of Elizabeth Coleman

    Elizabeth Coleman

    I just want everyone to know that one of my biggest sexual fantasies include sharing a hot Krispy Kreme doughnut with someone and I can finally check that off of my bucket list.

  8. Avatar of Cheryl Reeves

    Cheryl Reeves

    Make a sexual bucket list. I suggest keeping as many of these as you can. I’ve checked off quite a few including watching each other masturbate. You will notice your partner look at you differently as you do it.

    • Avatar of Emanuel Terry

      Emanuel Terry

      I don’t think I can masturbate in front of my wife. It’s nasty. It should be done when you are alone.

  9. Avatar of Diane Cox

    Diane Cox

    Thank you Urbanette for posting this bucketlist! You’ve given me some ideas to spruce up our sexual time. I’m very much happy!

  10. Avatar of Ana Drake

    Ana Drake

    What’s on your sexual bucket list? I feel lucky to have been able to live such an open lifestyle full of experiences the past 12 years. What would be your ultimate experience? Don’t be shy.

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