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How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

4 fun ways to Shake. It. UP!


After a consecutive 10-day span of Netflix and Uber Eats, I began to worry that this could be the beginning of the dimming of our romantic flame. I didn’t want our relationship to lose its exciting energy. We were both such active people when we first met, but the stresses and demands of everyday life left us exhausted and it was starting to seem like we’d stopped putting as much energy into ourselves and our relationship as we used to.

I decided it was time to make a change, so we got in the car and on the road. We decided to approach the day like we were at summer camp — we rented bikes, went swimming in the lake, and played bocce ball at a local tavern.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and I spent a great day out of the city, and decided to make it a regular thing

This action-packed day left us feeling excited, alive and more connected to one another than we’d been in ages (or the past few weeks, anyway). That day we made a pact to break free of our idle routine every weekend and be more active together through shared hobbies.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and me, having fun exploring new towns

Engaging in an activity with your spouse can strengthen your bond and help you create unforgettable memories. To keep things fun and fresh in your relationship, try some of these activities together:


Explore the Great Outdoors

Take the weekend to get out into nature and enjoy the serene sounds and sprawling vistas. Spending time together without distractions allows for moments of open communication and opportunities to bring out your adventurous side. Going on biking or backpacking trips can bring you closer together, since you have to rely on teamwork to navigate the trails and set up your tent.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and I, hiking Storm King Mountain (in the rain) in upstate NY, about an hour north of NYC

If you live near NYC and you’d rather opt for a two or four-hour hike, we love the Storm King Mountain trail, which is about an hour north of NYC, but you can choose your adventure here.


Play a Sport

If you both enjoy being athletically active, take up a sport you can play together. Golf is one you can play together until you’re 90 years old (or so the sales pitch from my golf-loving husband goes).

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

Learning to sail on a weekend trip upstate

Tennis is another excellent activity for couples to enjoy, as it can vary in intensity and can be played with just the two of you. Or, if you want to put your tennis skills to the test, play against another couple for a fun challenge. Find couples looking for friendly competition on the USTA site.

For an extra challenge, learn an unusual sport together like kayaking, archery, fencing, or sailing.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and I raced a Ferrari and a Lamborghini at The Richard Petty Exotic Driving Experience

If you and your spouse love living on the wild side, try a more extreme hobby like white water rafting, skydiving, rock climbing or drag racing. Drag racing is an exhilarating sport that helps relieve pent-up stress. Around the country, there are weekend drag races happening where cars race at speeds up to 115 mph. To equip your car, make sure it has the proper safety features and high-quality equipment. Then, fulfill your need for speed and some healthy competition by racing against each other.


Find Your Zen

Practicing yoga or meditation with your spouse is an effective way to center yourselves and find your calm. Many yoga studios offer classes for couples yoga, which increase the communication and sensitivity in your relationship.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

Couples meditation is a powerful way to relax together on a daily-basis and can also come in handy during times of conflict. If you are new to meditating, there are several mobile apps that provide you with guided meditation sessions that you can practice with your loved one.


Take a Mini-Vacation

Not feeling the road tripping vibe? There are loads of last-minute vacation discounts online. Find one and go somewhere really spectacular. Traveling together is a great bonding experience.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

With my hubby on a long weekend trip in Provence

Google Flights and Skyscanner have handy map tools that can help you find the cheapest flight. If your destination is open-ended — i.e., “anywhere with a beach” — use the map to pick the most economical locale.

You can also try apps like Hotel Tonight, which offer last-minute deals if you need a place to stay tonight, tomorrow or within the next seven days. While some deals – especially in the US – are not so good, it can deliver deep discounts in Europe and the UK. BluByn is a new app with a personal concierge that will help you find the best travel deals from across the internet.

So take your adventurous spirit, your active lifestyle, and your insatiable curiosity and use those traits to explore and revamp your relationship. Ready. Set. Go!

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time in France, NYC, London and Switzerland, and travels extensively around the world. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 116 Comments

  1. Kelly Milone

    Have fun together, do something ridiculous together and just let go. In addition, the next time that your partner says something that bothers you, try responding with a joke instead of getting defensive.

  2. Faith Lucas

    Treating your sweetheart with respect is likely to get you the same in return. And regularly reminding them of how much they mean to you will enrich your relationship in indescribable ways.

  3. All relationships have their ups and downs. Just as you can’t expect to be happy all the time, you sholdn’t expect your relationship to be at a continious high. When you make a long-term commitment to someone you have to be willing to ride the highs, as well as the lows together.😉

  4. Ashley Abbott

    It takes more than love for your relationship to work. Although love is the foundation of any happy relationship, love is not enough. In order to have a healthy relationship, both parties have to be willing to work on it.

  5. Make the most of your differences. I focus on my partner’s positive aspects and find an appreciation for those things that make us different from one another. Our differences balance us out and make us a great team. 😗

  6. Jean Perry

    Try something new together! Because participating in a new activity together can keep the relationship exciting. A willingness to learn something new help you grow together as a couple.

  7. Angela Sharp

    Say I love you, often and don’t shy away from words that truly express how you feel.

  8. Dawn Katz

    Some problems can’t be solved. There may be issues upon which you cannot agree. Rather than wasting your energy, agree to disagree, and attempt to compromise or to work around the issue. 😉

  9. Ani Hoker

    In today’s busy, modern world, you need to find time for each other. This is not easy if you both have hectic careers and becomes even more difficult when you have children. But if you have established that you both have a will to make things better, you might find it helpful to look at your joint schedules and find some extra time when you can be together.

  10. Johanna

    Accept conflict as normal because disagreements happen. Don’t throw away a relationship because you;ve hot a rough patch. Trust and commitment deepen as you travel through storms together.

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