How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again


After a consecutive 10-day span of Netflix and Thai take-out, I began to worry that this could be the beginning of the dimming of our romantic flame. I didn’t want our relationship to lose its exciting energy. We were both such active people when we first met, but the stresses and demands of everyday life left us exhausted and it was starting to seem like we’d stopped putting as much energy into ourselves and our relationship as we used to.

This past weekend I decided it was time to make a change. NYC was hit by a heat wave, so we got in the car and on the road, bound for upstate. We decided to approach the day like we were at summer camp — we rented bikes, went swimming in the lake and played bocce ball at a local tavern.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and I spent a great day upstate, and decided to make it a regular thing

This action-packed day left us feeling excited, alive and more connected to one another than we’d been in ages (or the past few weeks, anyway). That day we made a pact to break free of our idle routine every weekend and be more active together through shared hobbies.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and me, having fun exploring upstate

Engaging in an activity with your spouse can strengthen your bond and help you create unforgettable memories. To keep things fun and fresh in your marriage, try some of these hobbies that you both will love:

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A writer, artist and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary spends most of her time in France, but still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC and has traveled extensively around the world, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.


  1. Great post and photos! A long lasting relationship takes a lot of hard work… anyone thinks it should just happen (you are meant to be) will never find true love~

  2. Wendy Hearn

    Such an encouraging article!!!! You two guys are so adorable:) Love your pics!!!!! Thanks for this article!!!!!

  3. Storm King Mountain is a great place to hike and it’s not far from the tri-state area. As a couple it is totally important to get outside and enjoy each other’s company without the tech! (Thanks for the suggestions about a fun upstate New York weekend getaway…I will bring my boyfriend sometime soon!)

  4. Christine Muchoe

    I’ve been wanting to go camping with my boyfriend for a while but I’m hesitant. (Not a big outdoors girl.) This makes me think I should make it happen, though 🙂

  5. Cute photos, Hilary!

  6. That’s so cool! I’ve always wanted to do that, take a break from the idle routine of relationship – life and just do something different. In my past relationships, sometimes, you just get into that routine of doing the same thing every day. Maybe because it’s comfortable and you’re afraid of doing something else. But I totally agree with you on this, Hilary. 😀 Glad you guys had fun!

  7. I agree with Georgia. It’s really a great read if it’s personal. Great article, Hilary!

    And yes, enjoying your relationship “over and over and over” again is the key to a happy and successful marriage or partnership. Me and my husband make sure we spend time together (alone, without the children)…

  8. Hiking? No thanks LOL
    What racing tracks and sailing school are the best in LA??

  9. I really like when you write articles that are more personal, like this one. The photos are adorb. I’m going to try the racing idea – looks like fun!

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