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How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

4 fun ways to Shake. It. UP!


After a consecutive 10-day span of Netflix and Uber Eats, I began to worry that this could be the beginning of the dimming of our romantic flame. I didn’t want our relationship to lose its exciting energy. We were both such active people when we first met, but the stresses and demands of everyday life left us exhausted and it was starting to seem like we’d stopped putting as much energy into ourselves and our relationship as we used to.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and I spent a great day out of the city, and decided to make it a regular thing

I decided it was time to make a change, so we got in the car and hit the road. We decided to approach the day like we were at summer camp — we rented bikes, went swimming in the lake, and played boccie ball at a local tavern.

This action-packed day left us feeling excited, alive and more connected to one another than we’d been in ages (or the past few weeks, anyway). That day we made a pact to break free of our lazy routine every weekend and be more active together through shared hobbies.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and me, having fun exploring new towns

Engaging in an activity with your spouse can strengthen your bond and help you create unforgettable memories. To keep things fun and fresh in your relationship, try some of these activities together:


Explore the Great Outdoors

Take the weekend to get into nature and enjoy the serene sounds and sprawling vistas. Spending time together without distractions allows for moments of open communication and opportunities to bring out your adventurous side. Going on biking or backpacking trips can bring you closer together since you have to rely on teamwork to navigate the trails and set up your tent.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and I, hiking Storm King Mountain (in the rain) in upstate NY, about an hour north of NYC

If you live near NYC and you’d rather opt for a two or four-hour hike, we love the Storm King Mountain trail, which is about an hour north of NYC, but you can choose your adventure here.


Play a Sport

If you both enjoy being athletically active, take up a sport you can play together. Golf is one you can play together until you’re 90 years old (or so the sales pitch from my golf-loving husband goes).

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

Learning to sail on a weekend trip upstate

Tennis is another excellent activity for couples to enjoy, as it can vary in intensity and can be played with just the two of you. Or, if you want to put your tennis skills to the test, play against another couple for a fun challenge. Find couples looking for friendly competition on the USTA site.

For an extra challenge, learn an unusual sport together like kayaking, archery, fencing, or sailing.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

My hubby and I raced a Ferrari and a Lamborghini at The Richard Petty Exotic Driving Experience

If you and your spouse love living on the wild side, try a more extreme hobby like white water rafting, skydiving, rock climbing or drag racing. Drag racing is an exhilarating sport that helps relieve pent-up stress. Around the country, there are weekend drag races happening where cars race at speeds up to 115 mph. To equip your car, make sure it has the proper safety features and high-quality equipment. Then, fulfill your need for speed and some healthy competition by racing against each other.


Find Your Zen

Practicing yoga or meditation with your spouse is an effective way to center yourselves and find your calm. Many yoga studios offer classes for couples yoga, which increase the communication and sensitivity in your relationship.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

Couples meditation is a powerful way to relax together on a daily-basis and can also come in handy during times of conflict. If you are new to meditating, there are several mobile apps that provide you with guided meditation sessions that you can practice with your loved one.


Take a Mini-Vacation

Not feeling the road tripping vibe? There are loads of last-minute vacation discounts online. Find one and go somewhere really spectacular. Traveling together is a great bonding experience.

How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

With my hubby on a long weekend trip in Provence

Google Flights and Skyscanner have handy map tools that can help you find the cheapest flight. If your destination is open-ended — i.e., “anywhere with a beach” — use the map to pick the most economical locale.

A travel app I love is Very Chic, which offers curated last-minute deals if you need a romantic place to stay tonight, tomorrow or within the next couple of months. While some deals – especially in the US – are not so good, it can deliver deep discounts in Europe and the UK. BluByn is a new app with a personal concierge that will help you find the best travel deals from across the internet. Here’s a list of more great travel apps.

So take your adventurous spirit, your active lifestyle, and your insatiable curiosity and use those traits to explore and revamp your relationship. Ready. Set. Go!

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she spends most of her time traveling around Europe, with pied-a-terre's in Zurich, London, Milan and Lyon, France. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 281 Comments

  1. Linda Dent

    Wow. Did you drive a Ferarri?😍 😍 I wanted to drive that car, but how can I afford to buy one? How much will it cost to drive luxurious cars?

  2. Florence Frederick

    I’ve been to Storm King Mountain. It’s a great escape from the busy crown of NYC.

  3. Patti Luna

    We’re not a sporty type of couple. We prefer to play mind games like board games? It’s more fun, and we also invited our friends most of the time.

    • Mona Parks

      Oh. I love playing board games! Now that we have kids, we play monopoly every Sunday because that’s the time where my kids are at home, and also us.

  4. Donna Tate

    It’s nice to relax and be with your spouse for the weekend. After a long tiring weekday of work, it’s right to give yourselves a break.

  5. Frederica Pellman

    Good stuff – so easy to put your partner at the end of the line of things that have to be paid attention to. It’s easier if you don’t have kids which can soak up a lot of your energy and time, but even that can be good if you do fun things together with the kids, or plans weekends where you dump the kids on one set of grandparents and take off for a couples weekend. Like most things in life, mindfulness is the key…

  6. Sandra Grijalva

    The most important thing is that the couple needs to find time to enjoy and have fun. Because it’s a lifelong relationship. Having time together helps build the relationship stronger.

  7. Charlize Coates

    I have been married almost 17 years and have realized that having new experiences has really kept our relationship strong and fun, but there are still so many more things we can do together.

  8. Mariana Oswald

    I love this idea of playing golf together. It is important to row as a couple. I completed 3 years in my current relationship, hoping to have more experiences such as these in the future.

  9. Jamy Binns

    I’m thinking of buying dancing lessons for me and my husband for Xmas because we both love dancing and we don’t really have time to go out on a date and dance so this would be a really nice reason.

  10. Nadia Covey

    I would love to do all these adventurous things with my boyfriend if only he has enough time to do all of those romantic kinds of stuff.

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