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How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again


After a consecutive 10-day span of Netflix and Thai take-out, I began to worry that this could be the beginning of the dimming of our romantic flame. I didn’t want our relationship to lose its exciting energy. We were both such active people when we first met, but the stresses and demands of everyday life left us exhausted and it was starting to seem like we’d stopped putting as much energy into ourselves and our relationship as we used to.

This past weekend I decided it was time to make a change. NYC was hit by a heat wave, so we got in the car and on the road, bound for upstate. We decided to approach the day like we were at summer camp — we rented bikes, went swimming in the lake and played bocce ball at a local tavern.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and I spent a great day upstate, and decided to make it a regular thing

This action-packed day left us feeling excited, alive and more connected to one another than we’d been in ages (or the past few weeks, anyway). That day we made a pact to break free of our idle routine every weekend and be more active together through shared hobbies.

How to Enjoy Your Relationship Again

My hubby and me, having fun exploring upstate

Engaging in an activity with your spouse can strengthen your bond and help you create unforgettable memories. To keep things fun and fresh in your marriage, try some of these hobbies that you both will love:

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A writer, artist and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary spends most of her time in France, but still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. Hilary spent the past decade living in NYC and has traveled extensively around the world, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and brands to bring to Urbanette readers.


  1. Juli Woods

    We’ll try hiking this coming weekend!It’s a bonding for me and my husband…I’m so excited…Thank you Hilary…:’)

  2. Lusi Martin

    Going extreme like Drag Racing is the only thing that we won’t do. It’s kinda dangerous, for me.

  3. Jenifer Jeni

    Looking at these couples makes me envy Hilary! Huhuhu. I’ll do this when I have a husband to spend time with. Keep this up Hilary! I look up to you 🙂

  4. My sister-in-law and I would totally love this! Me and my husband, her and his, would going to give this a try next weekend for only the four of us together! Just like old times. ❤

  5. Kath Brantley

    Would love to encourage my husband to try this! We need this after this stressful week! My gosh.

  6. This gives the married couple their own time bonding together to enjoy. Gives them a break from their stressful days and time to unwind. Truly convinient for the both of them

  7. Zerin Martin

    Every married couple should read this! This is a absolutely helpful for them.

  8. Brett Lee

    My wife and I still do this even though we have kids already. We just have a one night off for the two of us and spend time together. This way, even if we’re both parents now, we still get our “date” times.

  9. Debra Whaley

    Wow! This is really cool. It gives both you and your husband a quality time together. Huhuhu!

  10. Jeni Morgan

    This gives me an idea for me and my husbands weekend off together. Thank you Hilary for sharing this xoxo

  11. Monique Malick

    We will surely go out this weekend. I will send my kids to my parent’s house so that we can have our time together out of the town.

  12. Jodi Thil

    Thanks for encouraging me to hike. My husband loves to hike, and I’m not into it. But now, because of you, I will try this one. I will also suggest this Storm King Mountain to him.

  13. What a great relationship you have, Hillary. I wish I have one too. Reading articles like this makes me feel alone. Huhuhu.

  14. Candis Melton

    I’ve been wanting to do the hiking with my boyfriend, but he’s too busy for that. During his leave, he’s with this friends. I don’t want to interrupt him in his hobbies, that is why I’m letting him with his friends.

  15. How can I convince my husband to join me in my yoga class? He’s always making excuses!

  16. Carol Joyner

    You seriously have a perfect relationship, Hilary. I really adore you.

  17. Olive Williams

    Oh… walking for too long is not my type. Let’s just pig out together my dear.

  18. Carrie Bleau

    Let’s go to the beach!!! I need vitamin SEA right now. I wish I have someone to bring, but apparently, I’m single. Lol

  19. Sherry Manust

    I will share this article with my fellow married couple. You know, the heat is really on the “in-a-relationship” days, but after that, the heat will slowly fade. I want to regain the heat that we both have before. Thanks for this one.

  20. Wilma Moore

    Wow! You’ve tried Storm King Mountain? You’re unbelievable, Hilary!

  21. Kelly Gonzales

    I don’t want my husband to cheat on me because I’m too boring. He loves playing online games, I think I should learn to play that game too, so I can catch up with him.

  22. Evelyn Harris

    Wow, Hilary! You have an amazing life. I always admire you because you’re inspiring us, women. I love it. Thanks for the advice, I will absolutely follow this.

  23. Dawn Katz

    In my experience, after being married most people have less quality time to spend together. You need to make more effort than when you were dating. Understanding is one way of making your relationship last, but of course, it’s not enough. Making time for each other and doing something new will help you to spruce up your relationship again. It worked for me!

  24. After reading this one, I’ll book a flight to Miami! We’re going to catch some waves!

  25. Kimberly Holder

    My husbad hates Yoga, and I hate Golf.. maybe it’s better if we both try each other’s hobby. 😀

  26. Ani Hoker

    Yay! That’s on my wishlist! The Skydiving. I want to Skydive in Dubai!! That’s my dream. I wish my husband will make that wish come true.

  27. Eloisa Clay

    Wow! Drag Racing? Is that even legal? I mean, It’s cool! I wanna try that, but I don’t drive. Lol

  28. Katherine Donnelly

    My husband and I, do love to play tennis! It’s our bonding time every Saturday. I used to hate tennis because he’s investing too much time into it. But then, when I start playing tennis, I started to fall in love with this game too. Now, we’re both enjoying the game, and at the same time, we have our quality time together.

  29. George Sumanta

    I love how Hilary helps the couple to make their quality time together more exciting.

  30. Britni Baynes

    I like the idea of outdoor activities! I will tell my husband about this. Thanks for the tip!

  31. Great post and photos! A long lasting relationship takes a lot of hard work… anyone thinks it should just happen (you are meant to be) will never find true love~

  32. Wendy Hearn

    Such an encouraging article!!!! You two guys are so adorable:) Love your pics!!!!! Thanks for this article!!!!!

  33. Storm King Mountain is a great place to hike and it’s not far from the tri-state area. As a couple it is totally important to get outside and enjoy each other’s company without the tech! (Thanks for the suggestions about a fun upstate New York weekend getaway…I will bring my boyfriend sometime soon!)

  34. Christine Muchoe

    I’ve been wanting to go camping with my boyfriend for a while but I’m hesitant. (Not a big outdoors girl.) This makes me think I should make it happen, though 🙂

  35. Cute photos, Hilary!

  36. That’s so cool! I’ve always wanted to do that, take a break from the idle routine of relationship – life and just do something different. In my past relationships, sometimes, you just get into that routine of doing the same thing every day. Maybe because it’s comfortable and you’re afraid of doing something else. But I totally agree with you on this, Hilary. 😀 Glad you guys had fun!

  37. I agree with Georgia. It’s really a great read if it’s personal. Great article, Hilary!

    And yes, enjoying your relationship “over and over and over” again is the key to a happy and successful marriage or partnership. Me and my husband make sure we spend time together (alone, without the children)…

  38. Hiking? No thanks LOL
    What racing tracks and sailing school are the best in LA??

  39. I really like when you write articles that are more personal, like this one. The photos are adorb. I’m going to try the racing idea – looks like fun!

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