I don’t know about you, but getting the best out of every sexual experience is basically my #1 goal in life. I spend most of my afternoons daydreaming about the day I’ll find that perfect someone who’ll sweep me off my feet and give me that wild carnal feeling as we’re both entwined in each other’s arms.
But when I meet someone new, is it possible to predict if he’ll be sexually compatible to my needs — without sleeping with him? Well, here are a few ways I’ve learned to predict sexual compatibility, without wasting a lot of time:
Check Your Body’s Reaction
As you stare at this person, you suddenly felt hot all over. A sudden tingling sensation seems to crawl along your skin; taking in every detail of the person awakens your body, and some parts of your anatomy are starting to get restless… The feeling of just grabbing the guy and running to the nearest bedroom is practically unbearable. Don’t just disregard the feeling, pay attention to it!
Chances are you’ll recognize when you just don’t have a great sexual connection with another person. Honor your intuition.
Considering that this is your reaction we are talking about, keep in mind that (I know, it’s unlikely, but) you might be the only one who’s feeling it. So try to observe his (or her) reaction as well; if he feels the same way about you then he’ll likely be leaning in, touching your hand or thigh, flirting, and making it clear that he’s into you.
Kiss and Tell
A kiss can tell you more than if he (or she) is a good kisser or not. If you know what to look for, a kiss can tell you a lot of things regarding the person’s sexual compatibility with you. First kisses shouldn’t be judged since nerves often get in the way. But the second kiss is fair game. If the kiss is somewhat harried and out of focus, or if he doesn’t put his hand on you (on the back of your head or back, normally) while he’s kissing you, then he’s probably not a good lover. But a wild one, complete with tongue play and carnal lust, may be your ticket to wild night in bed.
You can also judge through the kiss if the person is sexually passionate or a wet blanket (no pun intended!) If he (or she) kisses the usual way then you might end up being the one to teach him how to get your pleasure meter up. But if the kiss lingers while his hands slowly explore your body, then you just stumbled upon a guy who knows his way around the female body – give it your best shot and don’t hold back!
Find Out Their Deal
Spontaneity in a sexual sense is good, but well-laid plans can lead to getting laid well, if you get it right. If you want to find out if he or she is sexually compatible with you then plan out a series of seduction “tests” to make sure that he (or she) has the same taste as you.
We all fall on a spectrum of vanilla to kinky when it comes to our sexual appetites. One guy may be perfectly happy with missionary sex every single time, while the other might need ball gags and blindfolds to get off. Some people use sex to connect, others use it for a release, and others use it to fill a void. A partner who wants sex twice a day is going to have a hard time dating someone who would be fine with once a month.
Finding out where he (or she) stands is critical to determining long-term sexual compatibility. So flirt. Talk about what turns you both on. Ask if he’s into anything kinky, or what he thought of 50 Shades of Gray.
Experience is Always the Best Teacher
To be really sure if you’re compatible, then you may just have to get it on and experience it first hand. Get to know personally if the person is sexually compatible with you by making out. Go to second or third base, but don’t hit a home run.
Take it slow at first; a little foreplay can do wonders at this point. If you’re turning each other on, then you can move it up a notch and start getting a bit more erotic. Let the anticipation build up until you’re really sure you want to go all-the-way, and it’ll be even hotter than if you’d done it sooner.
Consider This
All of this only works if you know yourself. You need to know what you like, how you like it, and how often, in order to figure out how that guy you’ve been on a couple of dates with fits into that picture. The best way to get to know yourself is to touch yourself. When you feel sexual, act on it — by yourself. Figure out your body and what makes you feel sexy. Dress to feel sexy. Cook, if that awakens your senses and makes you feel sexy. Take baths and notice how it feels when you run the soap gently over your skin.
It can be difficult to know how much emphasis to put on sexual compatibility; while most people enjoy great sex, we tend to feel uncomfortable with the thought of ending a relationship over sexual incompatibility. The good news, in my opinion, is that sexual compatibility is not a fixed value. It can actually be improved! Your willingness to work on your sexual relationship is way more important than having identical sex drives and desires. And that’s OK! Life just wouldn’t be interesting if we got what we wanted 100% of the time. You never know — you just may discover a new side of yourself!
That tingly feeling downstairs. The Musk in the air that makes any lady moist with excitement. The animal in you want’s to just go and devour his tool. That’s the signal that you really really need him to be yours. Then you will now have to take his attention with your flirting. I have my ways, how bout you guys?
Ladies just don’t go 50 shades of gray on the first try. Trust me you do not want that. He WILL love that but you won’t. so just don’t.
Chains and whips would be a bit extreme for anyone. However, it excites me, really wish I would meet someone who can be STRAIGHT M for me. Or at least be flexible enough to be both. so we can switch it up yo know.
What is with girls and being sadists? Kinda scary for us guys now.
The body reacts to hormones. And that would be the main sign to determine if you are gonna have a good time or you’re gonna fake it and say meh.
In our society and time today, Being sexually attractive to someone is much more important than being attractive in general. Beauty fades in time but performance doesn’t. The true test of love is when you still get wet/get hard even if you gained x pounds and not look like your self from 10years ago.
A kiss on the first meeting is the first boundary he must overcome to get to your love garden. If that kiss doesn’t give you the sensation that you want each other then do not attempt to go any further.
A kiss on the cheeks sure. on the mouth? nope! All that germs from someone you don’t even know. No thanks.
Not many women can say they experienced orgasm in their lives. But if you do find someone who can and constantly let you finish first. KEEP HIM AND LOCK HIM UP!
Most men only want to get in our pants, But they don’t know we actually want to be in their pants more than they know. it’s just that we have standards and they don’t most of the time.
Sexual compatibility is more on trial and error. Nobody tells their partner what their fantasies are for the first time. Then slowly they become more comfortable and explore new things together, then fantasies are mixed in and role play and so on.
Having the same fetishes is a plus to determine if you are compatible. But having to meet someone who has the same interest is kinda hard. Finding someone attractive is like a unicorn.
The genres of porn are for you guys. You make the industry more creative! thank you!