I was talking to my best friend the other day, and she admitted something to me. That about a year ago, a guy she dated for a about a month gave her herpes. The shocking part was that he had an outbreak the first time they got naked and, when she asked about it, he said that it’s not a disease — that his penis had simply always had those marks on it. She trusted him and, consequently, two weeks later, she had her first outbreak of this incurable disease. When she confronted him, he denied it, but she could see on his face that he was lying. Whether his hormones took over, was too embarrassed to talk about it, or he simply wanted to feel ‘normal’, she’ll never know. At any rate, it was unfortunately too little too late, for her.
It’s not easy to accept having a STD. For those that suffer from them, it’s common to want to ignore the issue. In attempts to feel normal, some simply don’t get tested (too scary!) or knowingly continue to spread the infection or STD through unprotected sex.
Could it be, for that individual’s various personal reasons, the spread of STDs and STIs are not always accidental, but rather, deliberate?
This is not to say that those carrying infection or disease are deliberately trying to harm others. Although there have been cases of very conscious and deliberate STD spreading (apparently some feel that they’ll be more normal if others have the disease as well), this is not the norm in general.
Usually, in an effort to deal with such a serious and anxiety-ridden personal issue, continued unprotected sex is a semi-unconscious reaction. The infected person rationalizes the concern for the other person’s safety away, or simply forces one’s self not to think about it at all. As a result, there are 19 million new cases of STDs each year.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, every year, 1 out of 4 teenagers contract a sexually transmitted disease.
I mean, I get it. Coming to terms with having a STD like herpes or HIV would be so awful that I’d want to just ignore it too. It’s life changing, which is why denial of the condition easily accompanies this reality. Dishonesty runs rampant for those infected. I mean, who would want to risk their friends or colleagues finding out about their secret? Fear of rejection by family and friends is understandable.
They protect their secret because they don’t want to risk seeming unattractive, like they could be damaging to others, or because it has the possibility of making it hard to have a ‘normal’ relationship. The stigma presented by the general public is enough to encourage a carrier to hide this unfortunate truth.
People with STD’s are no different when it comes to wanting a normal life, sexual and otherwise. Most often, they do not have ill-will or a desire to deliberately spread the infection (although some misogynists have admitted to doing exactly that). Again, continued sexual intercourse without disclosure is often an emotional and unconscious reaction to a deep desire to maintain a normal life.
In attempts to feel normal, they continue to have unprotected sex and spread the disease.
Here are a few things you should know:
- Condoms protect against HIV, but not against many other STD’s like herpes and genital warts.
- If your partner has spots or sores — stay away!!
- A blood test can tell you if you have herpes.
- Herpes can be spread even without visible symptoms.
- Always use a condom.
- Look for signs of other diseases that a condom can’t protect against, like herpes.
- Ask your partner if they have a STD before you start making out (once you’re in the thick of it, they’re even less likely to be honest). But don’t trust a person just because they say they’re ‘clean’.
What it boils down to is picking partners who aren’t ‘players’ (the less sexual partners they’ve had, in theory, the lower the risk), and –I hate to say it– opting to masturbate instead of going home with that hot guy from the bar. The less partners you have, the lower your risk. Oh yeah; and do your next partner a favor — get tested!
I am scared to touch any male encounter again. OMG!!!!
Everyone is responsible for their own health and spirit. So be careful. Nowadays people are even being tested before being intimate- might not sound romantic but it’s life-saving.
The only reason why it’s hard to not sleep around at all for me is. it is really hard for me to find someone that a) wants a relationship, b) shares the same values and c) is sexually compatible with what I’m into. So instead I have sex like once or twice a year, not what I’d prefer but not really too sure to do.
The biggest myth about STD’s is that condoms will save you. They are almost useless because the infected cells are so tiny they can get through the latex or spread to the uncovered pubic area. So so don’t have sex with just anyone because your life is more important than any one night stand.
People with Herpes, AIDS, HIV and all those other incurable diseases should have to have a mark on their genitals so if they try to have sex with someone they could look and see if they are marked. Not a 100% effective solution but I think it would lessen the amount of infected.
Or we could just kill them or ship them off to Antartica essentially killing them unless they’re functioning member in the world. We can send the lazy pricks over there too.
Why are people still spreading this shit? I hope the people spreading STD catch the superbug gonorrhea and die off. The world will be better. No STD. Unless they come out with another one and put it in communities to depopulate the world.
It is better not to have sex with any stranger because of all these diseases.
Way back in 2014-2015, I read an article on Facebook about warning people about “POSing” which basically means “Positive-ing” or deliberately spreading HIV among people who are not infected. Basically, they create hidden groups on Facebook offering group sex opportunities. The twist is that the new members who decide to join do not know that there are people who have HIV that will join their sex party. Bottomline, there is a group of people who were tested positive for HIV and they just want to spread their disease for the sake of having fun. This is sicker than an individual who just says that they want to live a normal life despite having an STD. Whether this article was way back in 2014-2015, the rampant spreading of STDs is still on-going now. It’s not an article that is just relevant in the past, because it’s still an issue as of the moment.
That is just disgusting… But these things really exist. Very disturbing though…
Just stop having sex with random people!!! Get to know who you get into bed with! Stop it with all the parties and having sex with strangers! ? People are out of control these days and all they care about is pleasure!! ??
STD disclosure should be a law everywhere.