You’re crushing on this guy on your neighborhood, but he doesn’t seem to notice you. Maybe he’s shy, maybe he’s not. You want him to approach you so you can test the waters. Try these simple tricks:
Be Approachable
When you’re friendly to people around you, men will get the impression that you won’t snub them. Smiling is always the best indicator of approachability. But remember not to overdo the “friendliness,” or you might creep out guys into thinking that you’re a crazy lady – you know, the one who chitchats with everyone who passes her by. Desperation for human contact is, of course, unattractive.
Go Solo
Men love to see you being surrounded by friends, but to have them to flirt with you, you need to find time to go out in public solo. That way, men will feel like the timing is perfect to approach you. It’s always intimidating to approach a lovely lady when she’s with her flock.
Dress Down
Contrary to the power-dressing theory that says you are sexier when you are dressed to the nines, casual dressing invites more men to flirt with you. This gives the impression that the woman is not high-maintenance and knows how to have fun. That is, unless you’re attending a ball or formal-wear event. Men love to flirt with you in a casual wear because you reflect personal expression rather than presentation.
Stay in a Comfy Place
Ever wonder why bookstores and small coffee shops attract more flirtatious behavior? That’s because the setting isn’t intimidating and people seem to be more comfortable talking. Compared to a red-carpet event, a comfy place doesn’t make people feel awkward. Oh, and take some time to stay in one place. It’s hard to shoot at moving targets.
Enjoy Whatever You’re Doing
Being caught up in whatever you’re doing, and looking both happy and content while doing it, always attracts curiosity. A guy will likely say, “I wonder what she’s doing? She looks so happy.” See, you get attention without even trying.
Expect Nothing
Flirting is only testing the waters. If you respond to flirting or teasing, then things may progress into dating. If you don’t, well, nothing’s really lost. This is why (watch out!) even men with girlfriends still flirt with single women (*more about that). There’s nothing serious to it, at least for the moment (*more about that). Flirting is normal, and it can make man-woman interactions more fun. So unless you’re interested in Mr. Flirt, you can just give him a warm smile for the interaction and shrug it all off later.
When having a small chat, maintain eye contact, but never stare them down! Make a comely demeanor. If you give off a threatening vibe, you may lose the connection. Being friendly will not hurt.
I try to be modest in anything that I do. I don’t want to get any attention unless I am unconsciously doing it by careless mistakes. It’s a way I protect myself from some dangerous individuals. I don’t want to be in a relationship yet, and not even flings are on my mind.
Flirting is one thing, and harassment is another. A woman should always know when a man is taking advantage of her weakness. If he went overboard, don’t be afraid to cry for help. Stop being needlessly victimized.
Flirtation only makes men exhibit superiority. They might think that girls always seek their attention. And not every guy you set your eyes to is available. We know them! They will look for any chance to have sex whenever they feel like it. Not all of them, of course, but most are.
I don’t want to draw too much attention, but I also appreciate it when I get noticed by some guy I think is hot. Only to have a chat because I’m not ready for serious commitments. Flings may be fun. I enjoy reading this article. Though some guys are much easier to ‘catch’ than others, I think.
I think I don’t need these flirting strategies. I want to be my real self every time I’m with people. If a guy wants me, then he can approach me, if not, that’s fine, too. Girls do not need to be that desperate to have guys flock around them.