Sometimes even the best relationships have hiccups. As couples go through their ups-and-downs, it’s important not to let our ‘downs’ become disastrous. Here are a few tips to smooth the ride and avoid a breakup-worthy disaster:
1. Recognize that work can be a danger zone.
- Don’t have lunch or take coffee breaks frequently with the same person.
- Don’t get into discussions around the water cooler with co-workers that you find attractive.
- When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public, not in a room with a bed.
- At the office party, pretend the coworker who’s flirting with you has gonorrhea, then talk about your happy relationship, or better yet, talk to someone else.
2. Minimize your alcohol and drug intake when you’re not with your significant other.
Skip that third beer when you’re out with the guys, or the second martini with work colleagues. Mistakes happen more frequently when you’re not thinking clearly. We all know that unintended hookups happen when alcohol is involved. Bad ideas somehow become irresistible, and in the morning you’ll have to deal with the damaging consequences.
3. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your committed relationship.
Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours their heart out to you. Emotional disclosures are the first step to building an inappropriate emotional bond that could end up in an affair. Most affairs aren’t planned, and they’re often with people less physically attractive than their spouse.
4. Protect your marriage by discussing relationship issues at home.
If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a friend of the marriage, and not someone you find attractive. If the friend is knocking marriage in general, respond with something positive about your own relationship.
Cheaters say the danger developed because emotional intimacy grew over time with someone they worked with.
5. Don’t go over the line when you’re on-line with Internet friends.
Discuss your online friendships with your partner and show him/her your email if they’re interested. Invite them to join in your correspondence so your Internet friends won’t get any wrong ideas. And definitely don’t exchange sexual fantasies online (i.e., don’t be an Anthony Weiner!).
6. Keep old flames from reigniting.
If a former lover is coming to the class reunion, invite your partner to come along. If you value your marriage, think twice about having lunch with an old flame.
7. Make sure your friends are supportive of your marriage.
Surround yourself with friends who are happily married and who don’t believe in fooling around.
I am dealing with this right now. There’s a guy who works at my company on a different floor, different department. We have no connection what so ever at work and we usually see each other about once every two weeks usually when I am getting on the elevator. We have exchanged pleasantries and flirted a little. I spend a lot of time thinking about him
There is no justification for cheating, LMFAO. Cheating is cheating, there’s no excuse for that.
Physical cheating is gross, but it doesn’t elicit the same reaction in me as emotional cheating.
My partner and I once argued about Facebook. I’ve never cheated but I do have male friends who message me. I’ve shared my social media with him but he never shares his. I find it unfair and it sort of makes me feel like he’s just afraid of his own medicine.
I can tolerate a lot, but I can’t tolerate cheating. I will forgive whatever wrongs you did to me, but cheating is not included.
Cheating doesn’t mean you have to only kiss, meet or have sex with someone else. Once you find yourself deleting messages so your partner will not see them, then you’re already there.
Sometimes, in a relationship, you feel like you’ve done your best but that’s not always the case. Sometimes, when your partner cheats, it’s because he/she saw something in another person that was lacking in you. I’m not blaming the victims of cheating, but I just want to also let you people consider the reasons why others cheat. Ask yourself a few questions, the simplest ones: Have you been taking the time to listen to your partner? Have you told your partner you loved them lately? Have you been doing something to show appreciation to him/her? Sometimes, we’ve been with someone for too long and we fail to recognize the simplest of faults. We start to think that once we’re married to that person, we no longer have to give them flowers from time to time because “you’re way past the courting stage”.
True… It’s easy to blame another person for the state of your relationship.
A mistake is an accident. Cheating and lying are not mistakes, they are intentional choices. Stop hiding behind the word mistake when you get caught.
Old flames can be disastrous. Especially when it all started during your husband’s younger days. As people get older they get all nostalgic about old feelings.
When a cheater’s gotta cheat, a cheater’s gotta cheat. Anyone who has never had any cheating tendencies won’t be brave enough to do even do it. Because they know that they’re risking more than just the relationship they’re currently in. A cheater is immune to thinking of risks. They’re just too confident that they can have all the women in the world because they’ve done it once or twice already. Men like this don’t change in an instant. I’m not trying to generalize but all I’m saying that if a person has already cheated, it’s just easier for them to do it again.
It’s true that not all men are like this but let’s just say 70% are.