Sometimes even the best relationships have hiccups. As couples go through their ups-and-downs, it’s important not to let our ‘downs’ become disastrous. Here are a few tips to smooth the ride and avoid a breakup-worthy disaster:
1. Recognize that work can be a danger zone.
- Don’t have lunch or take coffee breaks frequently with the same person.
- Don’t get into discussions around the water cooler with co-workers that you find attractive.
- When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public, not in a room with a bed.
- At the office party, pretend the coworker who’s flirting with you has gonorrhea, then talk about your happy relationship, or better yet, talk to someone else.
2. Minimize your alcohol and drug intake when you’re not with your significant other.
Skip that third beer when you’re out with the guys, or the second martini with work colleagues. Mistakes happen more frequently when you’re not thinking clearly. We all know that unintended hookups happen when alcohol is involved. Bad ideas somehow become irresistible, and in the morning you’ll have to deal with the damaging consequences.
3. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your committed relationship.
Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours their heart out to you. Emotional disclosures are the first step to building an inappropriate emotional bond that could end up in an affair. Most affairs aren’t planned, and they’re often with people less physically attractive than their spouse.
4. Protect your marriage by discussing relationship issues at home.
If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a friend of the marriage, and not someone you find attractive. If the friend is knocking marriage in general, respond with something positive about your own relationship.
Cheaters say the danger developed because emotional intimacy grew over time with someone they worked with.
5. Don’t go over the line when you’re on-line with Internet friends.
Discuss your online friendships with your partner and show him/her your email if they’re interested. Invite them to join in your correspondence so your Internet friends won’t get any wrong ideas. And definitely don’t exchange sexual fantasies online (i.e., don’t be an Anthony Weiner!).
6. Keep old flames from reigniting.
If a former lover is coming to the class reunion, invite your partner to come along. If you value your marriage, think twice about having lunch with an old flame.
7. Make sure your friends are supportive of your marriage.
Surround yourself with friends who are happily married and who don’t believe in fooling around.
Temptations are anywhere, it is up to your partner if he/she will get tempted. It’s hard to avoid temptations, but true love is the best shield.
Not to brag but I’m blessed. Got the best friends who ain’t dissing my name, and a good boyfriend who ain’t cheating.
Wow! You’re very lucky! I hope everyone has the same best friend and boyfriend like yours.
I beg everyone to consider their actions before cheating on somebody. The damages you cause your significant other is permanent. You have no idea how much that ruins a person. It is the most desperate, relentless pain. It changes the entire way they view love, and themselves.
I have absolutely no respect for anyone that cheats on someone they “love.” You deserve exactly what’s coming to you.
I hate cheaters! They don’t deserve any love because, in the first place, they never give a shit about the feelings of their significant other.
cheating has become so normalized in this society that people go and act like loyalty is something to brag about when it should be standard.
You need to be head over heels for your girl NO MATTER how long Y’all been together. You can also lose her from a lack of communication, affection, and energy, not just cheating
I understand why people say it’s more the guy’s fault when cheating, but what kind of person do you have to be in order to knowingly help a guy cheat on his girlfriend?
Your boyfriend’s friend is never your friend because there’s a huge chance that his friends are saying the same shit they said to you on your boyfriend’s side bitch.
Guys who are posting about women’s day, respecting women, and their mommas but be cheating and treating a girl like trash LOL FUCK OUTTA HERE.
Cheating leaves such a horrible scar. You’re stuck with issues with insecurity, self-esteem, your mindset & trust. Even if you don’t feel the same about that person or if they aren’t in your life anymore, it takes so much time&effort to work with that, especially on your own.
If a man loves a woman, he’d never cheat. If a man is half-inlove with a woman, he will cheat. Ever considered that, ladies? Take it from me, I’m a man who’s seen a lot of it.