After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
This is the most judgemental article I ever read. Don’t judge unless you have proofs!
I had a friend who uses yelling as her defense mechanism hahahahaha witty!!
You should tell her/him that it is not helpful in a relationship. Otherwise, you are not a good friend for allowing her/him to do so.
I remember so many people using books as an excuse hehe.
And using their phones, too! ??
Those who are a pro in lying can look you into your eyes without any remorse.???
What if your partner is fat and it’s normal to sweat???
Make him/her hit the gym! Then, when he is all looking hot and sexy, you can look for all the signs of dishonesty everywhere! Hope he/she won’t lie to you! ?
In the middle of the argument my boyfriend usually touches his ears and chin.?
Can’t stop laughing while reading this article, this is accurate!
Been on a 2-year relationship, all the red flags are there but I kept on searching for a spot of forgiveness. Then one day someone texted me that my partner is cheating for almost a year. I cut my communication with my partner because I’m totally fed up. After that, I saw a lot of old pictures of my partner and her so-called-significant other. Thanks to this article, red flags are real.
Good thing someone told you that! Otherwise, you’ll be a fool for staying.
This is actually I need the most way back 2015…
All the red flags and you’re still blind asf hahahahaha.