After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
I find open honesty really sexy! It makes me feel sexy too. I think honest men are the real alphas.
We women lie too lol I remember the last guy I dated in Nov, he told me he slept with 9 women and then he asked how many men I slept with? I lied of course lol
My ex wants to get back together. Mind you he’s a huge liar. I have been thinking I don’t want him back he was so mean to me. He don’t deserve me anymore.
i don`think my boyfriend is a liar but the other day I noticed that he was looking at his phone to see if I had played with it which I had not and then he mentioned that he put a security code on it because of his ex girlfriend not trusting him which has nothing to do with me??? He has my trust but often tells me I am jealous since he has 2 ex`s of his children that he still has to deal with and quite honestly I think it is some kind of reverse psychology since I could not care less and don`t feel jealous but mostly think I am normal that I don`t want his ex`s around that is why they are ex`s… What do you think? Thank you so much for any advice.
My ex lies about everything, he would say anything because even those he think he changes the way his actions shows that that guy is still a jerk.
Dang now I’m wondering about my husband he said he only slept with one person before me lol ??
I had a guy lie about his last name !!! And the same guy lied about the year he was born, all I meet are liars.
My former boyfriends usually lied about their life goals. The moment they learn about my ambitions, they tend to try and pretend they are in tune with me and my goals… I guess they don’t to loose face in front of me, but in the end, when fights rise, truth comes to the surface. I’m too ambitious for my own good, I guess :(
he lies when he says he loves me I don’t care about the past but when he’s lying while he’s with me and doing things that make me feel down like chat and hang around with other girls to me it’s sounds like it’s ok for him to do it but if I do it I’m a bad person I mean what is that all about I just rather be alone than with someone who makes me feel anxious and worried all the time
If you catch your guy lying about small things that don’t matter and money sometimes, does that mean he is for sure lying about much bigger things to you?