After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
Yes, I officially ended a relationship because he first ghosted me. When I asked what was going on, he said his employer closed shop and he had to find another job. But in the meantime, I saw his dating profile was visible.
My boyfriend used to lie to me because he wanted to avoid conflict, and when I realised that, we talked about it and he felt really bad. But some months later he lied again, so I was very upset and I told him that if he ever lied to me again, I’d break up with him, because I couldn’t trust him. What we managed to solve the problem from the root, so now I feel I can trust him and he knows he can trust me. Though it still hurts to think about the past.
It’s good that you both resolved it. I hope everything goes well!
I found out my boyfriend is texting and calling at 3AM with some stranger woman who he once met. I looked through all his emails and they’re clearly talking and texting and she even booked a room for a few nights at his hotel. Then when I asked him who she was he said “I don’t know her!”. He lied straight to my face. And then I told him I know everything and he didn’t even apologize!!! Not once. He said he’s just curious how her life is going ? whatever that means. Why would you be curious about someone you’ve seen once.
My boyfriend lied about being at work when in reality he was at the barbershop..seeing his car parked by my house…that same night I had my best friend had her husband surprise birthday where I had invited him to come with me for months…after I seeing his car parked by the barbershop I text him and asked him if he was coming to the bday..he reply
Hi baby still at freaking work but yes I’ll pass bye!!!
I just lost it right there and then!
Long story short it’s been a week I had not spoken to him broke it off!
He text me asking me if we can meet up in a public place to talk…till today I haven’t reply!
Im hurt!
Liars will drive you insane… I say move on especially if it keeps happening over and over. Lying is a sign of immaturity in my eyes.
If he loves you and still lies… Its not because he doesn’t respect you, it’s because he doesn’t respect himself.
Is there a man doesn’t lie! I don’t wanna fall in love or get married because I know that, that man will cheat on me one day, so I prefer to not be in a relationship with any man… they are all liars, cheaters and heartbreakers.
Well that sucks, but I’m going to be single all my life because I have high standards., anyway.
The reality is they lie because they really don’t love you more than they love themselves, so they follow their selfish lustful desires with out caring about what it will do to u, and will use any excuse to rationalize it. It happen to me and it took me years to process it until I stop loving the person. At the end of the day that should be the unforgivable in a relationship people should break it off no matter what sooner is better than later obviously.
a real man doesn’t cheat, he breaks up first :D if anyone cheats its because they DON’T love the person. do not forgive!