After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
Girl you deserve a big hug for telling it like it is. And you hit the nail right on the head .thank you for putting it out there.
No matter how he’s good at lying, time will come that he’ll get caught because the truth will always prevail. Even if you haven’t caught him red-handed but the fact that he’s cold-hearted towards you, I’m sure something’s wrong in the relationship.
i dated someone who dated another girl a year before and posted her on his Instagram all the time, when I dated him he basically kept it secret, and sometimes he wouldn’t reply for a about a day, but apparently he would text my friends and look at my story on SC, but wouldn’t text me back? I broke up with him in the start of January and he texts me saying he misses me but still texts my friends? l don’t exactly know what to do, he lives 3 hours behind my timezone, which might just be a bad idea over all
Lol mad as hell I saw this a little too late funny bc all five signs came about on a second date I was on a couple days ago
This is the absolute truth ? my intuition never failed me about him..thank God he give me the strength…to leave…You’re the absolute truth Queen????
Thanks for sharing. I have been there and done that several times as well and it is not a good feeling. Just decided to pull back from someone because I started to see the signs. I thought he was the finest guy I had ever seen or actually wanted to talk to me until I noticed I wasn’t getting no reciprocity. I was driving my car, spending my money and still made excuses for him. He’s fired and don’t even know it. He still texts or calls me but I don’t call or text him at all.
Ladies ladies she just gave you some powerful information. As mush as I hate to do it to my guys she is 100 percent right.
I’ve been there! Keep making the same mistakes! I guess we all have to learn the hard way!
Thank you for putting this out there!!! I loved your messages it’s so on point ???❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Every male that I’ve ever took an interest in has treated me badly. It was mostly my fault. I am now very cautious with males. I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than be with an good for nothing piece of shit for a minute.