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Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Don’t all women really just want to make babies, cook and clean?


In the age of Trump, it seems as though we’ve slipped backwards in time. It’s once again assumed that if you’re a woman, you must be good at cooking, cleaning, and making men happy. Unfortunately for my hubby, I wasn’t blessed with the motivation to work on these domestic gifts. If it wasn’t for UberEats and the pre-made food section at Whole Foods, I’d probably have died well before I had the chance to get hitched. Luckily for me, my hubby is a feminist so he’s happy to cook, clean, make me smoothies, and still be my big strong, sexy (and breadwinning) man.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Society encourages young girls to turn on their Easy-Bake Ovens and dress up their American Girl dolls, all in preparation for a life of housekeeping and child-rearing. I may’ve gone down that path myself, if not for the time I burnt my hand trying to make a brownie.

Aside from Trump trying his best to drag us all back into the dark ages, as time passed, thoughts have slowly progressed about the roles of women in society. Bursting out of their kitchens, women broke into the business world and turned perspectives upside down. Breaking barriers that once seemed impossible for women to do, you’d think that most men would now have no choice but to see women as equals in the workplace, and soon, the home. But do they?

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

As women began to be taken more seriously, the myths and stereotypes about women have been consistently called into question. Gone, it seemed, were the archaic ideas that all women want is to get married and have children, as more and more women these days are satisfied with putting their careers first.


I don’t feel any shame about being bad at “women’s work,” and I’m not convinced there’s any reason I should be.


Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Buttttt, based on the fact that so many white women voted for Trump because their husbands wanted them to, it seems we still have a long way to go. So this seems like an opportune time to clarify a few things, in case Trump or any of his followers are reading this:


Myth: All women are good cooks.

Truth: This one is definitely not true — just ask my husband! In our home, my hubby does the cooking, but across America the task still typically falls to women. A survey by the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that on an average day, 83% of women do some sort of housework, compared to 65% of men. With respect to food preparation and clean-up specifically, only 40% of men, compared to 66% of women, take responsibility for it. So, it’s not so much that women are good cooks as it is they tend to get saddled with that task more, because of our still-sexist society.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Myth: All women are good at cleaning.

Truth: We all know the gender roles when it comes to cleanliness for boys and girls: boys are expected to be filthy while girls are expected to be prim. As for adults — how many times have you seen a man pushing a vacuum around a room or cleaning up after kids in a TV commercial? Exactly.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Wondering why a vacuum cleaner is still in the portrait of a standard housewife? One women’s magazine article said cleaning is a form of meditation. Another article said that women just have higher standards of cleanliness. They both go on to say that if a house is a mess, the woman living there is the one who’ll be judged, not the man. Yikes!

Myth: All women are all feminists.

Truth: I wish (!!), but clearly not — as IMHO a feminist wouldn’t vote for Trump. Not because Trump is a man who ran against a woman, but because Trump is a sexist pig who thinks it’s perfectly acceptable to sexually abuse and objectify women.

The definition of feminism comes down to the fact that women are equal to men and deserve every opportunity to prove it, not that feminists think men are scum (they don’t! that’s missing the point!). Feminists aren’t a different breed of person, they just demand the acknowledgement that anything a man can do, a woman can do.

I want a man to hold a door open for me, but I also want women to get promotions for their hard work, and not be judged based on how we look in a skirt. Empowering organizations such as Lean In aren’t trying to make women kick all men to the curb, but instead give them the tools to realize they can and should stand on their own two feet without feeling inferior to men in and outside of the workplace.

Myth: Women don’t enjoy sex as much as guys.

Truth: Just because I’m not running around trying to sleep with everyone that looks good doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy sex. Women are just a bit more reserved about it, or at least they tend to be. Maybe if we weren’t pressured to be a “sexy virgin” by society, we’d act more like men do. Plus, we don’t have sex just to make the other person feel good (unless we’re deep down the rabbit hole of self-objectification); it’s about us, too, and don’t you forget it.

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

Myth: All women love to shop.

Truth: Personally, I hate shopping. The minute I’m inside a mall or clothing store, I want to get out. That’s why I do all my shopping online.

But the sad truth is that women are pressured by society to shop because they’re held to higher standards than men regarding appearance. The fashion industry aims their advertising mostly at women, in an effort to create insecurities. And –amazingly– in Trump’s America it’s still hard to be taken seriously when you’re a young woman getting started in the business world …especially if you aren’t well dressed. When it comes to appearance, women are expected to be on top of their game at all times, while men are allowed to simply slide by. #SoNotFair

Myths About Women (Listen Up, Trump!)

The Bottom Line

I don’t feel any shame about being bad at “women’s work,” and I’m not convinced there’s any reason I should be. Women have a lot more opportunities these days, but that’s not to say you’re any less of a modern woman if you fit this “traditional” mold. Feminism is about choice.

The fact of the matter is, women have other things to do in life besides cooking, cleaning, and giving birth. As times have changed, so has what’s expected of women. These days, women are able to juggle all of that and more while still being happy. Some are stuck in the past, but progressive women all over the world are changing how women are perceived and refuse to be held to old-timey standards.

A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 155 Comments

  1. Really inspiring article! Well, we have to admit… change is the only permanent thing in the world! Modern women can do A LOT MORE than what traditional women can. Old-fashioned expectations of women should really be changed and I think that the only way to do that is for modern women to show the world what we've got! Get out of the shell and show the world our innovative ideas 🙂

  2. Jen Spillane

    I like how this article shows how there are distinctions between what a woman wants to do and what she simply prioritizes. It's not that we love cooking or cleaning (must be a myth thought up by a male, haha); it's just that we're more likely to do these things, and I'm sure there's a ton of different reasons why that is the case depending on the woman.

  3. Hannah Mayers

    Yes, womanhood is NOT just about cooking, cleaning and SHOPPING! All the ladies out there, we can DO MORE! We can think and be productive in other things. It’s the modern day age, it’s time for us to move on and change the “stereotype image” of a woman!

  4. Jen Garcia

    The article is written for me! I represent all the myths identified and enumerated here.

    I’m married, I’m a wife and I have a child, BUT I make sure not to be “the traditional wife” that needs to stop working and progressing in career, be locked up in the house cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, waiting for my husband and giving him a massage.

    Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean that I don’t do all these things, I clean, I cook, I take care of my child, I wait for my husband and give him a massage BUT I make sure he helps me in performing these responsibilities. And I would have to admit that he’s a “better cook” than me.

    But I have nothing against those women who chose and opted to be a “full time housewife and mom” and dedicate their whole time and life to their family. It’s just that PERSONALLY, I don’t want this to happen in my married life. I mean I studied, graduated and got my college degree and of course, I would like to use that degree and progress in my career. Not just to earn financially but it’s for myself, to be confident and better. I believe if I feel better of myself, then I can be a better mom and wife.

    I really appreciate and commend how the author put a conclusion:

    “The fact of the matter is, women have other things to do in life besides cooking, cleaning and giving birth. These days, women are able to juggle all of that and more while still being happy. As times have changed, so has what’s expected of women. Some are stuck in the past, but progressive women all over the world are changing what women can do and refuse to be held to certain standards. “

  5. I hope my husband doesn't expect me to be the traditional wife. Yes I will cook, clean but I will also have my own life. I'll work socialize with friends and occasionally go out. I hope he's ready. Because this relationship will be 50/50

  6. Great article! I read once that, in a couple where both are working about equally, the woman still ends up doing most of the housework. There's no reason why that should be the case–these leftover double standards and outdated expectations for women need to be removed from our society!

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