Relationships

4 Reasons Why Men (& Women) Cheat

…plus, how to prevent your lover from cheating.

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Cheating While in Love

Surprisingly, cheating isn’t always about escaping an unhappy relationship. Often people who cheat report having a happy or even a very happy marriage. If we’re not just reacting out of biological impulse (I’d like to think by now we’re all at least trying to rise above the lowest common denominator), and we’re also not seeking escape from an unsavory situation, then what’s going on here?

4 Reasons Why Men (& Women) Cheat

Apparently “love” is a very broad term. We tend to think of love as something that ideally encompasses a great sex life, romance and a healthy amount of attachment all rolled into one package when in fact, each of these motives developed independently of one another. So while it is possible for them to work together, they don’t have to. That’s why you can feel compelled to sleep with lots of people while at the same time truly having romantic feelings for one partner, and feelings of attachment for yet another.

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Reader Discussion: 53 Comments

  1. The biggest reason for cheating is a lack of emotional connection or the feeling that you’re not appreciated by your partner as much as you deserve. Anyone could resort to cheating as a way to getting everything they lack where they are person even if it means going out of the relationship to achieve that. From an evolutionary perspective, a tendency for an individual to commit an infidelity stems from an attempt to increase the reproductive success at the expense of their partners.

  2. People cheating in relationship just because they find someone more beautiful girl or handsome guy. Or Find someone more financial strong Or Lack of physical intimacy in relationship these will the main important reasons people cheat in relationship.

  3. Why even bother giving people reasons to cheat? We won’t understand their reasons simply because we won’t do it. Cheating is a choice! and it is a wrong choice no matter what!

  4. The reasons are not important. Once you cheat nobody cares what your reason is. all the other one is gonna understand is you are a cheater!

  5. joseph pilar

    in all honesty, having been cheated on feels like shit. ladies cheat to replace, they don’t know how to play and just test the waters. they commit to whomever they are cheating with and invest feelings. fuck that shit, do you even know how guys feel after being cheated on? it’s like having been kicked in the nuts 57 times per second on a span of 3-5 years. you say we move on fast? I say it just doesn’t show. last words I will say to you those of you who cheated will cheat and probably go to them side dudes. y’all need Jesus!

  6. Osana Smith

    How can some people manage on cheating the person that they love? For me, it was a cruel thing to do.

  7. Jodi Thil

    You shouldn’t cheat when your not happy anymore. Have morals with yourself!

  8. Candis Melton

    Yes, it’s true. It’s better to broke up than to cheat. Cheating is such a wrong solution to be! Never right.

  9. Kathryn Gibson

    Honesty should come right next after getting into a relationship. Relationship nowadays just broken up after getting into a problem. They don’t resolve it. They just cheat to get out of their partner.

  10. Mildred Davis

    A cheater in a relationship is a relationshit.

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