Sometimes even the best relationships have hiccups. As couples go through their ups-and-downs, it’s important not to let our ‘downs’ become disastrous. Here are a few tips to smooth the ride and avoid a breakup-worthy disaster:
1. Recognize that work can be a danger zone.
- Don’t have lunch or take coffee breaks frequently with the same person.
- Don’t get into discussions around the water cooler with co-workers that you find attractive.
- When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public, not in a room with a bed.
- At the office party, pretend the coworker who’s flirting with you has gonorrhea, then talk about your happy relationship, or better yet, talk to someone else.
2. Minimize your alcohol and drug intake when you’re not with your significant other.
Skip that third beer when you’re out with the guys, or the second martini with work colleagues. Mistakes happen more frequently when you’re not thinking clearly. We all know that unintended hookups happen when alcohol is involved. Bad ideas somehow become irresistible, and in the morning you’ll have to deal with the damaging consequences.
3. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your committed relationship.
Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours their heart out to you. Emotional disclosures are the first step to building an inappropriate emotional bond that could end up in an affair. Most affairs aren’t planned, and they’re often with people less physically attractive than their spouse.
4. Protect your marriage by discussing relationship issues at home.
If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a friend of the marriage, and not someone you find attractive. If the friend is knocking marriage in general, respond with something positive about your own relationship.
Cheaters say the danger developed because emotional intimacy grew over time with someone they worked with.
5. Don’t go over the line when you’re on-line with Internet friends.
Discuss your online friendships with your partner and show him/her your email if they’re interested. Invite them to join in your correspondence so your Internet friends won’t get any wrong ideas. And definitely don’t exchange sexual fantasies online (i.e., don’t be an Anthony Weiner!).
6. Keep old flames from reigniting.
If a former lover is coming to the class reunion, invite your partner to come along. If you value your marriage, think twice about having lunch with an old flame.
7. Make sure your friends are supportive of your marriage.
Surround yourself with friends who are happily married and who don’t believe in fooling around.
I have pushed these feelings to the side of my mind. Unfortunately, they are sitting there fermenting and probably deepening. Bringing my feelings to the top of my to-do list will help me logically deal with them. I need to acknowledge the problem first.
It’s better to act on your instincts rather than ignoring them. These are good it will help me a lot.
We can’t always regulate who we will become attracted to, But we do have the ability to control how we act on those attractions.
We all are humans and human interaction is sexual. Having a crush or being attracted to a co-worker is natural.
But natural doesn’t necessarily make it good for you!
Sometimes, attraction to another person is less than convenient. I have strong, unwanted feelings of attraction to a colleague, the feeling is an uncomfortable distraction. I am worried about making him feel awkward or live in the fear that I might act on the attraction in a moment of weakness. I always wonder what can I do with feeling. Thank you for these wonderful tips.
Some of these men can’t even keep their own woman satisfied and have the complete nerve to be out here cheating. ?
Stop cheating on people! not only does it destroy their heart, but also their self-esteem and trust.
I can’t stand a female that stays with a man that’s disrespectful, cheater, and not showing they worth. They stay just to only show that they have a boyfriend. Smh.
Oh yeah, my ex-boyfriend cheated on me with his co-worker. If I haven’t caught them, I think he’s still fooling me with his lies. Don’t ever trust your guy if he’s always with the same girl at the office.
Everytime men say women are trash, they relate it to relationships and cheating. Women say men are trash relating to rape, like how some men rape their own daughters. Men beat, shoot, and burn women who turn them down.