After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
Someone told me before that he always lies because he’s scared to hurt the woman outright. Kind of like he’s already aware of what he’s done and he feels guilty about it so he hides it instead. Problem is, women like it better if you’re honest.
I remember dating a dude who can tick all of this in one conversation. He lies a lot even by the simplest of things. I started to think that he has worse issues than his lying because he seems to believe his own lies already. I’m not a dumb person and he still thinks he’s smarter than me whenever I’m trying to out him. Worst person that I met and whenever the thought of him crosses my mind, I can’t help but pray that he should get struck by lighting ASAP so he doesn’t end up hurting other women in the future.
Kudos to those people who think nobody knows about the shit they do, but God is judging them.?
This dude, just a couple of weeks ago was so obvious about his lying tactics. I wasn’t even exclusively dating him yet but he was trying to lure me into an open relationship, which is btw I’m not happy about. Anyway, liar liar, pants on fire.
Even the most loyal person can cheat and lie depending on the circumstance. People have that way of thinking that nobody will ever find out and that they have to live through the moment.
I met a girl who constantly cheated before. So what she does is she keeps a man that’s serious about her, then gets another man to pay her bills. I don’t know how she does it, but she does it flawlessly and even changes people’s names in her contact list. It’s actually insane how she manages to keep everything in place and nothing seems to ever go wrong until this one time that we accidentally went to a restaurant that his other boyfriend dines in.
That was very awkward I bet. Damn, that’s one terrible thing that could happen.
Honestly, nobody can ever tell you in full accuracy when someone is lying. Just trust your instincts and find proof, if you can. Then leave at the first lie.?
Leave. At. The. First. Lie. <– THIS. There will be more lies in the future if he managed to get away with ONE.
I had a bf who always talks calmly and I can’t really tell if he’s lying or not. Am I just bad in identifying it? Or is he lying?
If you think you’re being lied to, then you probably are. I bet you won’t even be reading this if you’re not experiencing anything like it.?
I still think that the best lie detector is your gut. Be observant enough but don’t let everything slide so easily. Another thing is before you get into a relationship with a person, you might want to casually ask if he/she has cheated at some point. I think people are 99.9% honest early in the relationship so it’s safe to ask. Anyone who has cheated in the past will still have the tendency to cheat “if given the chance”. Which basically means that a man/woman who is currently satisfied will not cheat, but if you give him/her the chance to want to be with someone else, then you should start worrying.
Women’s guts are very accurate even though we always neglect it. My gut feel has never betrayed me, ever.