After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
Guys can look you straight in the face and lie. And swear on everything they love. Seen it.
What about women? How can men know that women are lying to them? It’s unfair that only how men lie, but there’s nothing about women?
You have a point. It’s unfair t you, guys, that it’s all about you who are lying. We all are lairs.
It works! I interrogated my husband, and he is lying to me! I caught him sexting her secretary! I sent him out of the apartment. The thing is even if you know him well, sometimes, you can’t still see until you remove your blindfold. ?
Wow. That’s deep. Yes, we are all been blinded by the love. And once we let the blindfold off, we can see what’s happening in the real world.
Would you date somebody who would lie about their age who lie about the whole lifestyle would you be in a relationship with a person like that Would you wanna live with your relationship based on a lie or trust or honesty In faithfulness And respect
If that’s the foundation of your relationship, better stop it. It’s not healthy, and you will waste your time, and might miss someone who is right for you.
Oh c’mon people! Of course, we are going to be defensive because we are going to defend ourselves! It’s being unfair! What about a woman being a cry baby when they lie, huh? ?
Yes, this is unfair! they only focus on men, but what about women who lies, and cheats? They’re just fine?? Haha! This is insane.
Thanks a lot, Urbanette! Your articles are worth reading! You don’t know how much you’ve helped us. I can’t wait to read more of your articles! Love love. ❤ ❤
I really regret not being the best girlfriend. I didn’t cheat or lie or whatever. I just didn’t express my emotions well. I didn’t give all of myself to the relationship. Now, I lost someone who will give everything to me, and I am with someone who always lie.
My parents never divorced but got separate trying to keep appearances “for my sake”. Actually, it was for their own sake because they were too concerned with other people’s opinion. The result? I was never able to have serious relationships because I grew up surrounded by lies.
Too bad that you experience that. If the relationship is full of lies, better get off to that. It’s not healthy, and it will not change even in the long run.
Oh yeah, I remember my ex-boyfriend when I ask him about where did he spend my 1 gran. He got mad, and throw some stuff. Good thing my brother came, and yeah he has beaten that douchebag who tried to hit me.
A strong relationship is when you tell each anything and everything. No secrets, no lies. It sucks that men cheat, and lies to women. Don’t you want to have a normal relationship? Why lie with the woman you love?
It is in nature. Someone will always like it’s either the man or the woman. Don’t just focus on one side, let’s be equal to this issue.?