After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
I will put this in my mind! I need to know if someone is lying in my face. I will kick his balls, and I will never let him in my life again. Of course, I wish my boyfriend isn’t lying to me. Hehe ?
I haven’t found a man yet that hasn’t lied to me and I’m 56 years old, twice divorced and been single for the last 25 years. I have given up on finding a man that I can trust.
A lot of the time my gut tells me something is off and he’s probably lying, but I can’t prove it so I keep doubting myself.
The eye contact is a little bit awkward. I don’t lie, but I can’t stand looking for someone’s eyes eye-to-eye without blinking, or looking away. I am not just good at it.
Yeah! Me too! I once accused cheating because she told me to look eye to eye, and I am not good with it. I looked away, and laugh. She slaps me and never came back. ?
This guy he loves me and I believed that but he also tells to other women. When I ask if he loves someone else he denies it. I later found out that he was planning a wedding with another woman. I asked why he didn’t tell me about all that, he said that he was waiting for the right time.
Lies are normal, what isn’t is cheating. If you lie because you cheat, that would be wrong. But, if you lie because you are going to surprise her, or something related to that it’s normal.
Yes, my last BF was big lier!! I knew him inside out and the fact that he thought you were getting away with it was funny. I ended the relationship due to all his lies and he still cries. But I learned a lot from him and I didn’t give up on men or trust. I mean I love men too much and I’m not about to punish me new fella for the faults of my old one.
He is lying when you ask if he is cheating and he says, “I don’t have time to cheat” instead of saying no.
Men lie only when they open their mouth.
It’s sad we even have to look for articles like this.