After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
Perfect responses, this will be potentially seen in toxic relationships. When dealing with liars most of these red flags occur. Beware of devious people! Great advice ??
Once liar, always a liar. Never trust a man’s words; they can be so good in front of you, but behind they are big liars. Once lies always lies.
I am going true that right now he’s blaming me for what he did wrong it’s like I stabbed him by asking him who is that girl have been texting him and I am not getting any response from Tuesday until now I know something is wrong
One of the worst things someone can lie about is an apology. My ex said sorry for being mean to me and he kissed me as well but then he walked away straight after the kiss instead of trying to fix things in the relationship between so i figured out something was wrong. Next time i saw him he was still being mean to me so i confronted him and then the idiot confessed that he lied about the apology and manipulated me into kissing him … He is the worst kind of idiot ive ever known ??
Recently out of the blue, my husband locked his phone. We have trust, thought nothing of it. He is home every night. Truth he has many friends. I did learn if some comments on FB to only certain friends that bothered me. I mentioned it. I didn’t like his reaction nor solution. I simply made myself clear. Boundaries ladies. Cause we’re worth it. End of story.
Great post, Sarah! Always trust your instinct, cuz a woman instinct is mostly true. we all know that it’s really hard to catch a liar but, you will notice him from the way he acts and talk. He had the hard time to do an eye to eye contact with you.
Men who lie are men who never grew up! They really don’t have confidence with themselves!! Very messed up.
Men/boy/man is lusty individual temptation is everywhere. It’s hard to find honest, truthful, faithful, loyal and not abusive relationship these days…
A liar is simply telling you that, he is not matured enough to handle you. In other words, he feels inferior before you. That is why he prefer to be a liar. Mind you, liars are robbers. They are simply there to rob you of your joy. Avoid them.
Have you ever heard of men getting called dogs? I don’t know why people call men dogs… dogs are faithful, loyal, giving and would take a bullet for you. Men… They would never… They can’t be on the same level as dogs.