After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
when you have your FIRST conversation and what he says is totally different from his text. BIG RED FLAG! Don’t waste your time.
Like in my relationship when ever I have the feeling he’s hiding something from me it becomes a very big problem.
Honest and loyal man, nowadays, are like endangered species, they are hard to find. You are lucky if your man is one of them.
A man that lies should sit down so you can see the guy behind him... Good riddance to liars and cheaters.I have better things to do with my life and I’m worth more being by myself and happy!
Thanks, my intuition was right. When I questioned the changed stories, I got attacked and he got hostile. Secrets and lies. I can handle the truth, it is easier to forgive the truth than to live with the denial which insults my common sense...
It’s all true what you said about men. Men lie. They are street dogs. Not all of them but there some who are very faithful to their loved ones – not all!! I do not trust my husband.
Where did the thought of monogamy come from? I find it interesting when church folk denounce men for having more than one woman, yet most patriarchs in the Bible were not monogamous. Even that history proves time and time again that most men WILL NOT be faithful to one woman. I tell my daughters if that’s what you expect you are probably deceiving yourself. There are very few men that monogamous, good luck finding one.
Very Very True! May have been cheating but there was definitely something he was hiding ?????
This is totally true. My man fits in all five signs. I mean really. He will really tell me I’m crazy, hearing things. Every time I ask him anything he become so mad and yells at me saying I’m crazy and need help. He lies all the time – all the time!!! He really is the devil. He really is. I hope that he doesn’t ever get a chance to do it to someone else.
He gets a lot of text and phone calls, he ignores. He lies so hard he forgets what he told me. He gets angry and defensive when I bring up shade to his attention. He says I’m the reason for the relationship falling apart.