After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
Of course, he’s lying. Who doesn’t right? It’s just a matter of Risking it all to know what he lied about, Or just ignore it and trust him with his decision.
Don’t just rely on how he acts when you two are arguing. You can misinterpret his actions because of this.
That’s why when we are arguing, I always remove everything that he can grab while we are in an argument. By this, I can see if he’s lying or telling the truth.
Oh, cmon. Don’t act like you girls don’t do the same? It’s not just us men! You are lying too.
Whenever we are arguing, he always shouts. At first, I thought that I was being too sarcastic and offended him. But then, I realize, it is his way to escape his faults.
Whatever your reason is, lying is lying. I don’t get the point of people who lies because they are free, to tell the truth.
Really? Even moving while arguing is a sign of lying? Don’t does mean that you are just expressing yourself while you’re in an argument?
Please, do not generalize us all men. We may often lie, but there’s a reason behind it.
I wish people are like Pinocchio when they lie. I hope their nose gets longer Lol. Isn’t that funny?
Haha! I caught my boyfriend once. He was talking to a girl when he was on his way to the restroom. I was interrogating him, and his nose was sweating. I knew he lied to me that time, and he confesses it before we slept.