After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
One guy who I dated lied about his time playing HS football. His mom questioned him in front of me! I knew that if he lied about this, there had to be other things. I called him out on it & that quickly stopped. He started with some other issues, but needless to say, I was already on his game.
A real liar will lie! And the serial liars are experts at telling you lies and making YOU believe that you are paranoid. Is he lying to me? I think he may as well be. He always says that I’m the only person to whom he doesn’t lie to. DUH!
Guy or girl. It doesn’t matter! Spotting lies are just done by using logic and human patterns. Just close your eyes. Body language means nothing. It’ss just the logic you need to focus on .
In my own experience my boyfriend lied to me so many times, and cheated. So now I’m curious about him and his friend at work. They’re always texting each other but then he deletes all of their messages. Tried to gave him more chances but he keeps doing it all over again, so it is really hard to fully trust him anymore.
It’s a big warning sign when a person ask you to trust them regardless men or women. Trust me!!! Hhmmmm……?? Don’t trust.
I agree, sometimes the action speaks louder than words… Is the woman instinct can be trusted.. I just felt bad everytime i sense theres something wrong with us but no one ever opened up a topic…
Mine looked me straight in the eye, smirking telling his lies, almost challenging.. gave way to many details about a ” how was your day” or “how was the drive” …. Doing far more helpful little things for me before leaving..
Men lie sometimes, to avoid problems, but lying makes the problems, why do they not notice it? They are always making excuses specially if you know it. ? If you ask them they always close their eyes or rub it then say nothing. ?
Go with your gut and act dumb. ? be patient. It will all come out. Keep those eyes and ears open to the smallest things.
That’s how my man is i would text him and he would take forever to text back and he doesn’t answer his phone sometimes. My man is all of those his full of shit