After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
Truth should always come easily, no matter who you’re talking to. I didn’t buy it when a guy told me a groundhog chewed his car engine wires, so that’s why he couldn’t meet me. Yeah, and I just won the Poweball jackpot. And yes, I dumped him.
When confronted, liars will very often respond with a question or repeat exactly what you’ve just said to them. They get nervous and are trying to buy time to think of a cover story.
He had lied to me before. He lied again and caught him in the lie. When I confronted him he denied it and when I showed him the proof – all he could say was “okay”
I am going thru this now.its not fun at all to be treated like shit. why can’t men be real these days and just tell you the truth.why be fake. I have been been in a fake relationship now for two in a half years.he has put hate in my heart.taught me to not trust.messed my head and heart up. I know life is a vicious circle and he will get back what he gave..
I hate the people who lie in their relationship….. and demanding in relationship..he is lying and doing everything wrong and be like a good person and act like Ur doing wrong and start demanding in Ur life ????
A guy who I’ve known for over 4 years recently lied to me over text message saying that he was seeing a girl. I could tell he’s lying since he kept texting me 4 days in a row after he told me that since I was ignoring him. Now he is liking all my pictures on instagram and begging me to text him back. lol ever since he lied I’ve been ignoring him. I’ve been giving him the silent treatment the last 8 days since he lied to me.
My boyfriend hates talking, period. He shuts down and doesn’t wanna speak about the lies. He always says “live in the present, not the past.” But something always ends up happening that week he told the lie. SMH I’m so confused. We both have trust issues.
I, myself have a hard time keeping eye contact. It’s not about lying, just hard for me I guess it’s a shy thing. Not saying I can’t keep eye contact, just not for long. But I have seen videos that state great liars keep eye contact, as they want you to believe them. Such as those that have stole something from a personal and so on. I’ve been lied to, whether or not a person did or didn’t look me in the face. I hate liars . And lying has got nothing to do with the gender.
Just guys? And women don’t lie? I’m bisexual and dated women too. My ex continued to lie to me and I gave her every chance but continue to lie to me until the end.
Yes. The one I am with now… And he still lies. Always says he feels on trial. Well, then don’t lie. I knew he lied because I knew the truth to a question I asked him, before I asked him. And then I kept catching him in lies.