After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
This was perfect, glad I already knew he was a jerk before I saw this.Thanks
I’m so glad I came across your article. A week ago, I finally found the courage to walk away from a relationship that had a number of these signs. I should have broken it off sooner, but I stayed because I had no real proof of shady behavior. It was time to reevaluate things and trust that gut feeling.
My BIGGEST mistake I have ever made when it comes to my relationship with my husband is I have never allowed him to earn my love. I made it so easy for him. Gave away my worth without setting any standards and demanding the respect I deserve. Back then I was naive and had little to no confidence. 23 years later I’m still paying for it. This is very good advice for young women and women starting over. Wish I knew back then what I know now!
I’m sorry you had and have to go through that. But you may not have seen it yourself then, but there was a reason he chose YOU to be his wife. He can see how special you are because he’s still with you. So you must know you’re special too. Not because of him but because you’re you. God only made one you. You keep your heart good and your headstrong. God will reward you for your hard work. I will be praying things get better. Keep praying for him and your connection. It’s never too late to start over, even in a marriage, I think.
I haven’t found a man yet that hasn’t lied to me and I’m 56 years old, twice divorced and been single for the last 20 years. I have given up on finding a man that I can trust.
What if he says..just bcoz I didn’t want u to feel bad n it was not an important thing to tell.
Nowadays men don’t want to commit. It’s hard to find a good genuine guy.
He is lying when you ask if he is cheating and he says, “I don’t have time to cheat” instead of saying, “No.”
If you catch your guy lying about small things that don’t matter and money sometimes, does that mean he is for sure lying about much bigger things to you?
When confronted, liars will very often respond to a question or repeat exactly what you’ve just said to them. They get nervous and are trying to buy time to think of a cover story.
Life is full of odd experiences in which you encounter double-faced, hideous people who lie and cheat without being noticed. The situation gets complex when your guy appears as such people. Thank you for these sings these will help so many people out there.