If you’ve been a longtime reader, you probably know that I’ve been writing for this ‘magazine’ steadily for over 20 years (yikes — that makes me sound so old!!) The only time I’ve taken off was when I was sick.
With my hubby at a party on a yacht, overlooking our apartment in Monaco, during the F1 Grand Prix (May 2019)
I’ve decided to slow things at Urbanette down a little so I have more time to travel, enjoy life, paint (I’ve been an artist since I was young), and work on a few research-intensive articles. I’ll be keeping you updated on my journey via my Instagram stories. From now on, instead of publishing on a regular schedule, I’m going to be publishing articles only when I really feel compelled to do so.
As I work on my next article, I decided to make an ongoing list of the best and most helpful things I’ve learned along the way. The list is a bit all over the place / random, I know! I’ll keep adding to this list, so bookmark it and keep checking back.
In front of the Oceanographic Museum, heading to the X Prize Gala
Find a spouse that is kind, respects you, treats you as an equal partner in your life together, and really listens to you. Don’t waste time with people who don’t.
Find a cause you’re passionate about and get involved. It’ll give you more purpose and fulfillment, and you’ll meet great people along the way. This is mine.
Stop going to the salon. Hair dye (read more) and nail polish (read more) are both super toxic and cause cancer, among other serious health issues. The fumes in salons are super harmful to breathe. Stop wearing polish, and if you must dye your hair then opt for a natural-ish at-home dye and cut your own hair (I do, and it’s super easy!)
Baking soda (get the kind for cleaning, not cooking) and white vinegar can clean anything (including removing stains on clothing, getting grime off your shower, and unclogging your drain). Seriously. Try mixing the two together. It bubbles up like a 5th grade science experiment and washes away any kind of yuckiness. Stop dry cleaning and using toxic chemicals and google how to clean it all the natural way.
Look into the best American credit cards. Cancel your AMEX (since they force you to redeem your points through their website with inflated prices)! Learn to travel-hack using points and track them in Award Wallet. I have three cards that I use for specific purchases, to maximize the points I accumulate (I get 3 points per $ or 3% cash back on pretty much everything now). This works out to a lot of free travel, and I can book it on any website I want and just get reimbursed via my points. Check out my other travel hacks here.
A high percentage of dentists, doctors and veterinarians try to sell you procedures, tests and prescriptions that are totally unnecessary just to line their own pockets (read more).
If your dentist, doc or vet wants to do a procedure, get a second and third opinion (but don’t tell them what the other dentist/doc/vet said).
You don’t need a dental x-ray (yes, they cause cancer!!) unless you are feeling pain. Dentists tell you that you need them because they want to make more money.
Cavities can fix themselves (yes, really!) if you brush and floss. They often don’t need to be drilled and will go away on their own.
Before filling a prescription, do your own research online about the side effects. Doctors are basically educated by Big Pharma, so take what they say with a BIG grain of salt. What I do to lessen the load on my liver is I try taking half the dose and then see how I feel, or better yet, I research natural herbal alternatives (obviously, only if the condition isn’t life-threatening).
Find an ‘integrative’/’functional medicine’ doctor to replace your GP. Here’s why. Oh, and learn about your microbiome. It’s important — trust me.
Don’t assume that just because someone is nice-seeming, or because you treat them well, that they will treat you well in return, are honest, or have your best interest at heart. Don’t be closed, but proceed with caution.
Rid your home of toxins, for the sake of your future health and the sake of your loved ones and pets. Start here.
Automatically backup your phone’s photos using the ‘Google Photos’ app (download it and play around with the settings – set it to automatically save at original size). You can also make shared albums. When I go on vacation with my family, we all upload our best photos to a group album. Oh, and backup your computer using Sync.com (unlike Dropbox, it’s encrypted, so it’s actually really 100% private). And while we’re talking about digital privacy, here are more tips about that.
The Down Dog app is a great way to get into yoga. You’ll feel better if you do this a few times a week.
Headspace is a great way to get into meditation. Like yoga, it requires dedication but pays off bigtime.
If you don’t want to go to the gym, a rowing machine is relatively cheap and takes up little space, yet is a great full-body workout. We have one on our terrace.
If you must wear diamonds and designer stuff, poke around on DHgate first. (You can thank me later).
If you have a pet, remember that he or she will be much happier if you have two or more pets. The best way to do that is to foster (basically pet sitting for animal shelters) until you find another animal that gets along with your pet super well, then keep that one.
If you want to have better skin, more energy, and feel healthier, try a plant-based diet (cut out dairy, meat and seafood). Top athletes swear by it. It helps your body to detox, repair, and fights inflammation.
Make sure to check back as I add to this list. As always, I’d love to hear your comments in the discussion area below, and I’ll respond often. Have some great advice? Let me know below!
A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.
At the end of your life, when you’re laying on your deathbed, the only person guaranteed to be there is you. The only person you have to answer to is the one in the mirror. If you can look in the mirror at the end of the day and tell yourself “I worked as hard as I could today”, you’ll sleep like a baby. If not, then you better be ready to try again tomorrow. Told to me by my rowing coach. He always has a way of relating all of his pep talks to all of life.
For the passed 10 years… When older or same aged co workers or people I meet for the first time, (with kids) ask me my age then ask if I have kids or am married, and I say no. then They respond, “good. dont”. I say to myself no shit I’ve seen how married/ non married men with kids look like they live in regret and have the eyes of a broken spirit.
Hi, Hilary! It’s been a while since you last posted. And I see now why. I completely respect it. Please update as often as you feel like it. I’ll be here waiting for new updates. ?
Also advice I didn’t receive but learned the hard way, and give to people:
(CONTEXT: I have been struggling with a severe generalised anxiety disorder, panic disorder and major depressive disorder for many years).
If you’re depressed, nobody can help you until you decide to help yourself. And that is an almost impossibly hard thing to do. To force yourself to try when everything seems absolutely pointless is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
So take it in little steps. Get an audio book or movie or tv show or youtube video that you love and play it really loudly. Put it on the sink or wherever and take a shower while listening to it.
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I loved reading this. Best blogger in the world! ? Love this positive energy! greets from The United Kingdom
At the end of your life, when you’re laying on your deathbed, the only person guaranteed to be there is you. The only person you have to answer to is the one in the mirror. If you can look in the mirror at the end of the day and tell yourself “I worked as hard as I could today”, you’ll sleep like a baby. If not, then you better be ready to try again tomorrow. Told to me by my rowing coach. He always has a way of relating all of his pep talks to all of life.
I love the meditaranian. It’s my dream to live in Monaco. I currently live in central London and I love London but I need more sun in my life.
I love you Hilary! Keep inspiring people. You and Mike are the best, coolest, classiest couple on the internet!
Took some notes from this article for future use. I found most of the tips very helpful. Thank you!
For the passed 10 years… When older or same aged co workers or people I meet for the first time, (with kids) ask me my age then ask if I have kids or am married, and I say no. then They respond, “good. dont”. I say to myself no shit I’ve seen how married/ non married men with kids look like they live in regret and have the eyes of a broken spirit.
Hi, Hilary! It’s been a while since you last posted. And I see now why. I completely respect it. Please update as often as you feel like it. I’ll be here waiting for new updates. ?
Try to learn by the mistakes of others, to save yourself from making them. ?
No one can love you until you love yourself.
Also advice I didn’t receive but learned the hard way, and give to people:
(CONTEXT: I have been struggling with a severe generalised anxiety disorder, panic disorder and major depressive disorder for many years).
If you’re depressed, nobody can help you until you decide to help yourself. And that is an almost impossibly hard thing to do. To force yourself to try when everything seems absolutely pointless is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
So take it in little steps. Get an audio book or movie or tv show or youtube video that you love and play it really loudly. Put it on the sink or wherever and take a shower while listening to it.
Small steps.
“Those who take offense when offense wasn’t intended is a fool, Those who take offense when offense is intended is an even bigger fool”