If you’ve been a longtime reader, you probably know that I’ve been writing for this ‘magazine’ steadily for over 20 years (yikes — that makes me sound so old!!) The only time I’ve taken off was when I was sick.
With my hubby at a party on a yacht, overlooking our apartment in Monaco, during the F1 Grand Prix (May 2019)
I’ve decided to slow things at Urbanette down a little so I have more time to travel, enjoy life, paint (I’ve been an artist since I was young), and work on a few research-intensive articles. I’ll be keeping you updated on my journey via my Instagram stories. From now on, instead of publishing on a regular schedule, I’m going to be publishing articles only when I really feel compelled to do so.
As I work on my next article, I decided to make an ongoing list of the best and most helpful things I’ve learned along the way. The list is a bit all over the place / random, I know! I’ll keep adding to this list, so bookmark it and keep checking back.
In front of the Oceanographic Museum, heading to the X Prize Gala
Find a spouse that is kind, respects you, treats you as an equal partner in your life together, and really listens to you. Don’t waste time with people who don’t.
Find a cause you’re passionate about and get involved. It’ll give you more purpose and fulfillment, and you’ll meet great people along the way. This is mine.
Stop going to the salon. Hair dye (read more) and nail polish (read more) are both super toxic and cause cancer, among other serious health issues. The fumes in salons are super harmful to breathe. Stop wearing polish, and if you must dye your hair then opt for a natural-ish at-home dye and cut your own hair (I do, and it’s super easy!)
Baking soda (get the kind for cleaning, not cooking) and white vinegar can clean anything (including removing stains on clothing, getting grime off your shower, and unclogging your drain). Seriously. Try mixing the two together. It bubbles up like a 5th grade science experiment and washes away any kind of yuckiness. Stop dry cleaning and using toxic chemicals and google how to clean it all the natural way.
Look into the best American credit cards. Cancel your AMEX (since they force you to redeem your points through their website with inflated prices)! Learn to travel-hack using points and track them in Award Wallet. I have three cards that I use for specific purchases, to maximize the points I accumulate (I get 3 points per $ or 3% cash back on pretty much everything now). This works out to a lot of free travel, and I can book it on any website I want and just get reimbursed via my points. Check out my other travel hacks here.
A high percentage of dentists, doctors and veterinarians try to sell you procedures, tests and prescriptions that are totally unnecessary just to line their own pockets (read more).
If your dentist, doc or vet wants to do a procedure, get a second and third opinion (but don’t tell them what the other dentist/doc/vet said).
You don’t need a dental x-ray (yes, they cause cancer!!) unless you are feeling pain. Dentists tell you that you need them because they want to make more money.
Cavities can fix themselves (yes, really!) if you brush and floss. They often don’t need to be drilled and will go away on their own.
Before filling a prescription, do your own research online about the side effects. Doctors are basically educated by Big Pharma, so take what they say with a BIG grain of salt. What I do to lessen the load on my liver is I try taking half the dose and then see how I feel, or better yet, I research natural herbal alternatives (obviously, only if the condition isn’t life-threatening).
Find an ‘integrative’/’functional medicine’ doctor to replace your GP. Here’s why. Oh, and learn about your microbiome. It’s important — trust me.
Don’t assume that just because someone is nice-seeming, or because you treat them well, that they will treat you well in return, are honest, or have your best interest at heart. Don’t be closed, but proceed with caution.
Rid your home of toxins, for the sake of your future health and the sake of your loved ones and pets. Start here.
Automatically backup your phone’s photos using the ‘Google Photos’ app (download it and play around with the settings – set it to automatically save at original size). You can also make shared albums. When I go on vacation with my family, we all upload our best photos to a group album. Oh, and backup your computer using Sync.com (unlike Dropbox, it’s encrypted, so it’s actually really 100% private). And while we’re talking about digital privacy, here are more tips about that.
The Down Dog app is a great way to get into yoga. You’ll feel better if you do this a few times a week.
Headspace is a great way to get into meditation. Like yoga, it requires dedication but pays off bigtime.
If you don’t want to go to the gym, a rowing machine is relatively cheap and takes up little space, yet is a great full-body workout. We have one on our terrace.
If you must wear diamonds and designer stuff, poke around on DHgate first. (You can thank me later).
If you have a pet, remember that he or she will be much happier if you have two or more pets. The best way to do that is to foster (basically pet sitting for animal shelters) until you find another animal that gets along with your pet super well, then keep that one.
If you want to have better skin, more energy, and feel healthier, try a plant-based diet (cut out dairy, meat and seafood). Top athletes swear by it. It helps your body to detox, repair, and fights inflammation.
Make sure to check back as I add to this list. As always, I’d love to hear your comments in the discussion area below, and I’ll respond often. Have some great advice? Let me know below!
A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.
There’s a gay bar in Dublin called The George. Great bar, cheap drink, good music, and generally good people. When I was young, let’s say 10, my parents were discussing going there for their work party. My grandmother over heard and turned to me and said “Trissy, f you ever go to that bar, you keep your back to the wall”. I may have learnt my grandmother was a little homophobic but I still laugh at this advice some 15 years later ?☺️
On the Gameovergreggy podcast, Kevin Smith told them, whenever they were feeling overly stressed to remember “you wanted this”. I think that applies well to everything. School, relationships, etc.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it. Don’t spend life daydreaming about ‘what could be’ in a different place or circumstance. Instead, invest your energy in what is right in front of you and see how it can be cultivated into something beautiful.
“Don’t sweat the petty things, and don’t pet the sweaty things.” I first heard that from a homeless guy in NYC when I was 15, and I thankfully gave him a few bucks thinking I just learned some sage hobo wisdom, until I got home and my dad told me it was a George Carlin quote.
“When the mob and the press and the whole world tell you to move, your job is to plant yourself like a tree beside the river of truth, and tell the whole world, No, YOU move.” — Steve Rogers A.K.A Captain America
Marriage advice: “Pick your battles”. Seriously, this helped me so much over the years as I’ve come to understand that most things just aren’t important enough to argue over and that you don’t “lose” anything by letting things go.
This may be very specific to my career but I think it can be universal. “The road to success is all about who you know and luck, and both of those things are built up with time”
Love you both together! You guys are probably so rich yet are so down to earth. You should get a Youtube channel. Your life in Monaco would be great to watch.?
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There’s a gay bar in Dublin called The George. Great bar, cheap drink, good music, and generally good people. When I was young, let’s say 10, my parents were discussing going there for their work party. My grandmother over heard and turned to me and said “Trissy, f you ever go to that bar, you keep your back to the wall”. I may have learnt my grandmother was a little homophobic but I still laugh at this advice some 15 years later ?☺️
On the Gameovergreggy podcast, Kevin Smith told them, whenever they were feeling overly stressed to remember “you wanted this”. I think that applies well to everything. School, relationships, etc.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it. Don’t spend life daydreaming about ‘what could be’ in a different place or circumstance. Instead, invest your energy in what is right in front of you and see how it can be cultivated into something beautiful.
“Don’t sweat the petty things, and don’t pet the sweaty things.” I first heard that from a homeless guy in NYC when I was 15, and I thankfully gave him a few bucks thinking I just learned some sage hobo wisdom, until I got home and my dad told me it was a George Carlin quote.
“When the mob and the press and the whole world tell you to move, your job is to plant yourself like a tree beside the river of truth, and tell the whole world, No, YOU move.” — Steve Rogers A.K.A Captain America
I really like this kind of “freestyle” blogs!!!! You do great, Hilary by showing us your true self ?? Keep going!!?
Marriage advice: “Pick your battles”. Seriously, this helped me so much over the years as I’ve come to understand that most things just aren’t important enough to argue over and that you don’t “lose” anything by letting things go.
This may be very specific to my career but I think it can be universal. “The road to success is all about who you know and luck, and both of those things are built up with time”
“It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.”
Joseph Campbell
Love you both together! You guys are probably so rich yet are so down to earth. You should get a Youtube channel. Your life in Monaco would be great to watch.?