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Thinking About Cheating? 12 Reasons Why You Should

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To cheat or not to cheat? Insert cliché: “That is the question!” But is that really the question? Now there’s another $64 thousand dollar question on the table – Is it bad to cheat even if I think my boyfriend won’t find out? Let’s find out…. just leave your ego at the door.

Thinking About Cheating? 12 Reasons Why You Should

It makes me feel good about myself – for a moment

Cheaters are usually insecure. Insecurity is a common theme in all our lives, and to seek relief from those insecurities is desirable, even if just for a moment.

Temporarily masking these insecurities requires ego-boosting actions, and cheating is a temporary quick-fix to satiate feelings of inadequacy. The cheater can gain satisfaction, like a temporary high, but risks feeling even worse after the act of cheating than they did before cheating.

They have bypassed dealing with the real issues and added a heap of guilt to the pile. A vicious cycle spins now because, without dealing with the underlying issues, the cheater may then feel the need to keep cheating in order to continue gratifying those feelings of inadequacy. Thus, cheating becomes a regularity, and the underlying personal insecurities have yet to be dealt with.

Personal inadequacies are legitimate, but must be resolved with self-confrontation. What is the number one answer? The survey says…get therapy!

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Born and raised in Texas, Shelly is currently studying to receive her Master's Degree in Publishing at the University of Houston - Victoria.  Shelly is a writer for Urbanette Magazine, and loves "everything it is and all that it offers our readers, and to me personally". She is passionate about life, family, friends, her maltipoo, Truman. She is a lover of all things culinary and the arts (13 year veteran of ballet).

Reader Discussion: 152 Comments

  1. Men who think they’re so attractive cheat. They feel like it adds a length to their thing whenever they cheat. Too bad, because no it doesn’t.

  2. Dawn Breedlove

    Excitement really dies. Eventually you’ll get bored of the thrill and what has become of that new found relationship of yours? Nothing.😇

  3. Tara Todd

    I saw on my newsfeed once about the ad in the billboard when her husband cheated. Kinda thought it was real but that was funny af.

  4. Paula Wilkins

    I’ve heard it so many times that men who cheat will blame their partners for their inadequacy. If there’s anyone who’s inadequate, it’s the man who decided to cheat just because of petty reasons. Heard this a lot before and I’ve met men who are worse than the other. Men who want to cheat will find reason in their partners so that they can continue to keep on cheating. I pity those women who get victimized by them because there are times that they would blame themselves.

  5. Sarah Brady

    OMG at that photo of the guy who has a tarpaulin hanging on his neck about cheating. That is so funny 🤣 CLASSIC!!!

  6. Maggie French

    Men sometimes argue that cheating is subjective and I’m like… 😒😒😒

  7. Eula Cox

    I’m so glad I found a guy who cheated before but completely changed. I know some of you might say that I should watch out, but I know for sure that he’s changed.

    • MARIA

      Lucky for you, because most women have to deal with cheaters who won’t stop.

  8. Tabitha Green

    How can they have the opportunity to heal when they won’t stop cheating? It becomes an unending cycle.

  9. Sophie Cross

    Other idiots would often argue that as long as they’re not having sex with the other woman, it’s not cheating. They would often say that chatting with someone is not cheating because it “doesn’t mean anything”. Cheating starts the moment you stray and you invest your emotions to other women other than your partner. Cheating is cheating guys. I don’t care what your definition is but when it’s not right, it’s not right. Keep your thingies inside your pants!

  10. Gayle Long

    Had a lot of boyfriends who were cheaters and it’s confirmed that they really have unsatiated insecurities. I don’t think they should be insecure, but they are.

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