The power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn’t be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their fantasies to anyone. Others are scared they won’t be able to fulfill them, so they’d rather not open pandora’s box.
In an open and healthy relationship, fantasies can provide the much needed escape from reality. Openly sharing these inner secrets with your partner unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always better to know the secret sexual desires of your partner than it is for him (or her!) to keep them locked inside. Awareness is power.
Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time, most can’t describe the fantasy in detail. Remember: detail is a major key to fantasies. When your partner is visualizing his (or her!) ultimate sexual encounter, he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of extreme importance. Knowing that his innermost secret desire is a threesome is not enough. Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.
The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lover’s wildest fantasy?
First and foremost, realize that he (or she) may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Assure him that breaking down this barrier will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy and will help build a solid, unified relationship.
Once you’ve assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. To get him talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening? What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.
A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him (or her). Enjoy!
If you want your man to feel confident in himself, he really needs to feel your respect and your unconditional love-loving him for all that he is.(even his flaws).
Sex is really tricky. It’s sometimes twice as funny because my hubby approaches me because he wants to try something new, then once he figures out it’s a bad idea, he laughs it off and tells me that he likes the old tricks better. He even says something about how porn is so unrealistic. I just really like it when we both are very open to each other about everything. Being open-minded is the key to a good relationship and sexual activities. Trying new things is always nice!?
Keeps the relationship always spiced up.
I don’t even understand the point of this article. It just went on about desires and I didn’t even figure out how to increase someone’s sexual desire?
It’s not always easy to discuss something like this. I find that it’s a little awkward because it would be bad if I got told that he can’t do a certain thing for me. It would only disappoint him and me as well.
Most of the time when life gets really hectic couples often forget this joy that they can share with each other and the relationship with tension. You have the ability to be the women who can instantly take your man’s mind off things once he’s got home from a hard work, by creating an atmosphere of humor and positive energy.
I agree with you, humor is amazing for your relationship and your health. It helps to relieve tension and stress, produces “feel good” chemicals in the brain, and creates closer bonds with your partner.
The element of surprise and spontaneity are great ways to start adding a little playfulness in your relationship. I always try to surprise him in some way or the other.
Nothing will enchant him or create romantic tension more than having a woman who can make him laugh and make mundane activities fun. Laughing teasing, and flirting are some of the things which can bring the greatest feelings of happiness and fulfillment in a relationship
It is very important in every relationship to know your partner’s desire no matter how old, successful, or mature men/women are they never lose their desire to play.
This is going to be the most powerful article I have ever read. Because I wanted to learn how to awaken any man’s inner romantic side and how to make him desire me and only me. Thank you.
Opening up is really healthy. It also encourages being honest in a relationship. ?