After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!
Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:
He Keeps on Moving
When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”
He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna
If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.
Don’t Break Eye Contact
When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.
Catch the Defensive Stance
Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.
Keep Your Voice Down
Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.
If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.
I’m not much of a “starer” even in random conversations. But that doesn’t make me a liar. It just means that I don’t really wanna stare at you right in the eye while I talk because I’ll end up trying to count your pores and blackheads while I’m talking. That, my friend, is very distracting. I’m also slightly awkward with conversations, what more arguing since I’m just such a peace-maker and I can’t hurt a fly. I’d fidget a lot but it doesn’t mean I’m lying. Be cautious of assuming that a person is immediately a liar despite showing all these signs. I’m sure you all know the difference.
People would go extreme lengths just to lie. So you really need these 5 signs to filter out the truth between the lies.
I remember my ex calling this girl his “long lost sister” or “BFFs” or whatever. Only to turn out they’re shagging.? Yeah, right.
Some people are good liars. They’re just too confident about themselves that they could be toying around with you smoother than your favorite peanut butter. That’s sad, but it’s the truth. I’ve met a man that’s so smooth in lying that you’ll just end up pissed because he’s turning tables and you can’t seem to figure out which side you were actually on. Others are just manipulative liars that can twist so many lies that can just exhaust you to the point you’ll just accept it. Be careful of those kinds of people. Liars aren’t exactly horrible people, but those who are manipulative liars are something else.
I hated it when my ex would pretend to be angry when I’d ‘accuse’ him of something. He would make it all about me when seconds ago, it was about his faults that we were discussing. Men like that are just dumb.
I feel you, I’ve been flipped over so many times in a dumb argument.
When someone is too elaborate with their claims, it’s mostly a lie. Mainly because they’ve memorized almost every little detail!?
The most accurate way to figure out if he’s lying is really the eye contact. There’s just something so unnatural about a person’s stare, especially if he knows that he’s trying to keep that eye contact even if his brain is screaming for him to look away. Whenever I’d lie, my eyes would give me away too. Also, if you really know your partner enough, anything would be a giveaway if he’s lying to you. Never assume that you’re always right though, especially if you haven’t got a proof. Not only will it lead to a relationship that’s falling apart, there would be trust issues that won’t go away as easy as you think it will.
Others cover up their lies by being sarcastic. It just sounds defensive and sometimes it’s too obvious.
The difference between a lying man and a woman: Men would never admit they’re lying even if they’re caught. Women would feel so guilty about lying they’d admit it even without getting caught.?
This isn’t for everyone but for a woman who’s done this in the past, I’d say it’s accurate for some!
If you know your partner enough, you’ll know that he’s covering his tracks…