When I caught my last boyfriend cheating on me (with a Hooters waitress, no less!), I was crushed. How could he do this? Doesn’t he value my feelings more than a tawdry fling with some tramp? Clearly not. What a dolt. Anyhow, I soon learned that there’s no sense trying to make sense of crazy. Let crazy be crazy and stay far, far away.
I didn’t come to that conclusion quickly though. After that breakup, I stayed indoors for way too long wondering about my own worth in the eyes of men. What a waste of time. Now, I know that enduring a breakup or divorce can obviously be an incredibly emotional and exasperating time. Whether you’ve parted with a partner of several years or several months, it’s likely you’ve been feeling blue and rather uninspired.
Though it can hard to accept that one chapter of your life has come to a close, remember that new and exciting times await you. Take control of your story and reinvent yourself post-breakup by revisiting an old hobby, signing up for a language class, or exploring an extreme sport. Whatever your interests, get out there and celebrate them.
To help embrace your newfound freedom, he’s a list of activities that helped me get back out there and seize the day:
Embrace Your Inner Wanderlust
Now that you have the opportunity to create your own itinerary, it’s time you embrace your inner wanderlust. Whether you plan to travel solo, or you’ve corralled the ladies for an adventurous road trip. Whip out that travel bucket list you’ve been neglecting and get ready to start crossing off some destinations. Another way to see the sites while also saving money is to embark on a solo cruise. The coordinated stops of cruise lines offer a wide variety of ambiances and experiences — from exploration to romance, rest and relaxation. Ask yourself what you’re hoping to achieve by traveling, be it enrichment, education or just simply adventure.
Foster Your Friendships
Beat the loneliness and fill that hole you feel by spending time with your best friends. There are plenty of scientific studies showing that being around close friends not only makes people happy, but is the key to living a long and healthy life. And who better than your bestie to tell you that he wasn’t worth your time in the first place? Deep down you always knew you were too good for him — why not surround yourself with others who agree with you?
Nature’s Healing Powers
There’s no time like the present to take up an outdoor hobby. Take advantage of the natural healing properties of gardening, which can lower depression and improve mood and balance. If you’re looking for something with a bit more punch, learn about your local water sports. Paddle boarding, kayaking, and jet skiing are all exciting ways to embrace the outdoors. If you’d rather stick to land, map out some of your city’s popular hiking trails. Not only does this activity offer fresh air and scenic views, it also inspires heart-pumping exercise and increases your body’s production of endorphins, the feel good chemical. You could also try checking out some exercise-related meetups or local events.
Become a Foster Mom
If you’re feeling lonely and in need of a loving companion, get involved with your local animal shelter and become a foster mom. All over the country, thousands of dogs and cats are desperate for homes and affection. Give back to your community and make a difference by taking in a temporary pet. You’ll appreciate the distraction from your worries and you’ll feel good knowing you’re helping an otherwise homeless, lonely pet. Who knows, your temporary arrangement could prove to be a lasting friendship!
Find Your Center
Sometimes what you really need after a breakup is some quiet time to heal and regroup. Perhaps now is your chance to explore an alternative career trajectory, or consider relocating to a new part of town or even a new state. Use this time to pinpoint all the things you want out of life, and then create a game plan.
Another way to get centered is to take up yoga and master the art of meditation. Not only can meditation help to you to get happy again, but both yoga and meditation help to manage stress and weight gain. Sounds like a win-win to me!
Emotional pain is normal during any ending, we can walk away trusting that even though we’re hurting, the right decision was made.
Breaking up with someone is never easy, everything will make sense someday.
I know it seems like a long road ahead, but remember, if this painful period is used correctly, it can set you up to fly. Consider this time as the fertile compost you need to grow a life you’ll love again.
Get back up again and start over.
There’s no easy way to moving and forgetting a sad and painful relationship. ? It’s gonna take time. Don’t let the person who hurt you get the best of you. Accept what happened, move on and be better. He will soon realize what he lost.
I’ve read other articles about this topic but I like this better. Just wanna also add this, Divert your attention to productive causes. Instead of idling the whole day in your way, be brave enough to face each day and do your best to live a functional life despite the pain you’re going through.
Thanks for this article, I’ve been reading a lot of self-help books and articles about moving on and glad to see yours.
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Whether this break up was your idea or your partner’s it really doesn’t matter. There’s no greater pain, than watching the hopes and dreams you shared between the two of you disintergrate before your eyes.
That is correct. We can’t really tell what’s gonna happen next.
Don’t let yourself feel blue after a breakup. Definitely don’t overeat as well!!!!!!! Get those icecream and chocolates away!!!
I was recently in a toxic relationship that lasted 1 year yet it felt like forever to me. It wasn’t the easiest to get out of and even if I was together with that person for just a year, it took so much energy and emotion out of me. It was very draining and now I feel like none of the things on this list could help me recover. I’m willing to try it though because I don’t really plan on being in the dark for so long. But I can’t help but feel extremely exhausted and all I want to do is lay around all day and sleep. I was told that it might be depression or I was just really drained from all of that emotional abuse I got in the past.
Talk to someone about those feelings. Don’t give up on trying to feel better. That breakup was probably for the best. You deserve better.
My bestfriend is currently experiencing this and I’m going to show her this article. Hopefully I can ask her to all of this with me just to make her feel better.
Time will tell whether we can move on easily or not. I don’t think that any amount of recreational activities can heal hearts.