The power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn’t be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their fantasies to anyone. Others are scared they won’t be able to fulfill them, so they’d rather not open pandora’s box.
In an open and healthy relationship, fantasies can provide the much needed escape from reality. Openly sharing these inner secrets with your partner unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always better to know the secret sexual desires of your partner than it is for him (or her!) to keep them locked inside. Awareness is power.
Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time, most can’t describe the fantasy in detail. Remember: detail is a major key to fantasies. When your partner is visualizing his (or her!) ultimate sexual encounter, he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of extreme importance. Knowing that his innermost secret desire is a threesome is not enough. Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.
The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lover’s wildest fantasy?
First and foremost, realize that he (or she) may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Assure him that breaking down this barrier will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy and will help build a solid, unified relationship.
Once you’ve assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. To get him talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening? What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.
A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him (or her). Enjoy!
It’s not easy to disclose fantasies to your partner. I always feel like I would be judged. We all know how our fantasies are. They’re fantasies for a reason.?
If you don’t know what things your partner likes, it’s really hard to excite the person. It took me a while to do this, because you can’t really figure everything out in one sitting.
Communication is really the key to a lot of things.
A woman is not nearly as turned as visually as a man. So it is though job for a man to unleash sexual tiger in women than it is for women.
I don’t agree with you. It is the easiest job if a woman feel good about herself in your presence and she’s feeling admiration for you and she’s feeling lighter her desire for you increases.
A women’s desire is very different from a man’s and it is important to understand how and why. If you want to unleash sexual tiger in your partner try to know his/her desire first.
It’s not that your wife doesn’t desire you. It’s that her desire doesn’t look like yours. This is what you need to know.
My husband is interested in me being his slut and controlling me. I am not against that, but I think I have a hard time getting over the notion that it is disrespectful. I would like to let go of that fear that his sexual desire is a reflection of our loving relationship so that we could both enjoy ourselves more.
My biggest struggle is that I find it hard to get turned on. I do have one very specific turn-on but I am really really embarrassed about it. A few days ago I told my husband about it, and we have had a few conversation about it. He said he doesn’t find it weird and that it’s a turn on for him too, he tries to incorporate it into our sex life, but I don’t think it will make a big difference until I feel comfortable about it and can stop being so mortified.
Of course, you need to stay close to one another to rais sexual desire in your partner. However, you don’t always have to be together with your spouse. If you are looking to keep the fire burning in your sex life, try to keep some distance.
If you are positive and you have a positive outlook and disposition, it will attract him to you. Men naturally feel attracted to women who are positive. So if you want to unleash sexual desire in your husband why not be positive about life?
Thank you for the advice I am definitely gonna try it. Afterall being positive is all that I need to do.