The power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn’t be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their fantasies to anyone. Others are scared they won’t be able to fulfill them, so they’d rather not open pandora’s box.
In an open and healthy relationship, fantasies can provide the much needed escape from reality. Openly sharing these inner secrets with your partner unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always better to know the secret sexual desires of your partner than it is for him (or her!) to keep them locked inside. Awareness is power.
Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time, most can’t describe the fantasy in detail. Remember: detail is a major key to fantasies. When your partner is visualizing his (or her!) ultimate sexual encounter, he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of extreme importance. Knowing that his innermost secret desire is a threesome is not enough. Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.
The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lover’s wildest fantasy?
First and foremost, realize that he (or she) may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Assure him that breaking down this barrier will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy and will help build a solid, unified relationship.
Once you’ve assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. To get him talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening? What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.
A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him (or her). Enjoy!
I have my fantasies in my head, but I can’t tell it to my partner. I’m afraid that she might reject me because she’s not that kind of woman? It’s hard to keep that secret, but what are we going to do? We don’t know if it will turn her on, or off.
This the effect of watching too much porn. If you watch too much porn, your brain is creating fantasies that is too much for your partner. IT’s not bad to have sexual fantasies but ensure that your partner is capable of doing that, or id she’s comfortable with that scenario.
Neck kissing, lip biting, back scratching, that what turns me on. Whenever my boyfriend is doing that, I am being wild, and he likes it!
Oh, yes! The neck kissing is my favorite part! It does turn me on, even though I’m tired, I will be in the mood for a fight because of that. Lol.
The article is perfect for Valentine’s Day! Happy Valentine’s day everyone! Spread the love people, and use this day to make your loved one feel loved by you.
I think it’s just normal to tell to your partner your hidden sexual desires. It’s for your own good too! I mean it’s easy for him to know what to do and how to please you…?
Really in to this topic! You’re such a genius Sarah!
I’m learning a lot in here! Really like this topic too!
Thank you Sarah for voicing out this kind of Topic. No one should be ashamed of being honest to your partner about sexual things. That’s for both of you to enjoy!
Yes your right that it would be great to converse with your partner about your sexual fantasies at night so that after that you’re both ready to fight!?
I’m feeling kinda nervous and excited to ask my boyfriend about his sexual fantasies. This would be my first time to ask him about that! ?
WATCHING SEXY MOVIES WOULD HELP ALSO!!! HAHAHA