The power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn’t be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their fantasies to anyone. Others are scared they won’t be able to fulfill them, so they’d rather not open pandora’s box.
In an open and healthy relationship, fantasies can provide the much needed escape from reality. Openly sharing these inner secrets with your partner unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always better to know the secret sexual desires of your partner than it is for him (or her!) to keep them locked inside. Awareness is power.
Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time, most can’t describe the fantasy in detail. Remember: detail is a major key to fantasies. When your partner is visualizing his (or her!) ultimate sexual encounter, he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of extreme importance. Knowing that his innermost secret desire is a threesome is not enough. Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.
The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lover’s wildest fantasy?
First and foremost, realize that he (or she) may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Assure him that breaking down this barrier will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy and will help build a solid, unified relationship.
Once you’ve assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. To get him talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening? What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.
A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him (or her). Enjoy!
Chains and whips. Cuffs and paddles. The more erotic the better. Just establish some ground rules before doing anything. Just to be safe and all
Tease him with eating a banana. Show it to him and don’t break eye contact. Trust me on this! they go cray cray with this shit.
A popsicle works too. With all the sucking sounds and the tongue action.
My man likes it when I go commando when we’re just chilling indoors. I’m confident with my body and I don’t mind it, Plus I like it when he sneaks a peek when I want him too. I let him and he doesn’t realize it.
Role play is really fun. I highly recommend it for everybody to try.
My boyfriend is plunged into a life of anime and Japanese culture. I don’t mind it honestly cos I enjoy it. But he has some weird fetishes that I quite like. I love trying on sailor uniforms bloomers and all the crazy cool pretty outfits from anime. He likes it. I love it. We both damage it together.
I was once caught by my partner masturbating in the shower. He said he doesn’t mind and he thinks it’s hot. So I said, want to watch? but no touching your self or me. long story short. I got to finish, he got to finish we are both happy.
Somehow, guys are turned on by watching us pleasure our selves. I don’t get it. But it adds a thrill if somebody is watching.
Trick him into cleaning windows. Then wear a white shirt and ONLY a white shirt. Nothing underneath. You will see how a man turns into a teenage boy hiding his boner and trying not to look dumb while peeking at your wet shirt.
Teasing him for a week is a torture and at the same time the best prequel to that night of bliss. Giving him head but not letting him finish, Suggesting things but don’t follow through. Making him want more and more. while giving less and less. making him addicted too you.
Strip any board game. When we get tired of Netflix and we need a little more spice in our lives. We do this stupid board games and just strip who loses.
First off. Men should step their game up. It’s too often that MEn finish first! they should learn how to let us finish first! They’re having all the fun while we are just left midway before the climax.
Amen to that sister. AMEN!