The power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn’t be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their fantasies to anyone. Others are scared they won’t be able to fulfill them, so they’d rather not open pandora’s box.
In an open and healthy relationship, fantasies can provide the much needed escape from reality. Openly sharing these inner secrets with your partner unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always better to know the secret sexual desires of your partner than it is for him (or her!) to keep them locked inside. Awareness is power.
Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time, most can’t describe the fantasy in detail. Remember: detail is a major key to fantasies. When your partner is visualizing his (or her!) ultimate sexual encounter, he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of extreme importance. Knowing that his innermost secret desire is a threesome is not enough. Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.
The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lover’s wildest fantasy?
First and foremost, realize that he (or she) may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Assure him that breaking down this barrier will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy and will help build a solid, unified relationship.
Once you’ve assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. To get him talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening? What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.
A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him (or her). Enjoy!
Being open about your sexual desires is really hard because you don’t know if he/she can accept you. Like in Fifty Shades of Gray. Christian is vey lucky to find a women who can accept him and his sexual desires. I hope to find a partner like that.
One way of making your partner increase his libido is to eat aphrodisiac foods. I’ts effective in my boyfriend.
Talking dirty with your partner can help trigger his sexual desires.
I’m very lucky to have a partner who is very open with me in anything including his sexuality. Actually he thought me a lot about sex he tells me every experience that he had to his other girlfriends before. I understand him and his needs also vice versa with my needs.
I think my SO will love this for Valentine’s Day. At least I have a reason on why I’m suddenly being seductive.?
Discussing something like this with your partner can strengthen the levels of trust and honesty in a relationship. While it can be awkward at first, trust me, it really helps. Keep in mind that the best benefit for this is that you two can not start having amazing sex because you two already know what you two want! It can even make your relationship better. Because nothing fans intimacy than a good activity between the sheets. What’s better than that? I can’t even think of anything else!
I think I’d be blushing so much just by going into too much detail of my fantasies. Do I even have the courage to do this? GEEZ!!! ?
This is why communication is really needed in a relationship no matter what the topic is. Lack of communication can cause unwanted problems even in the bedroom. I think it’s also important that two people who are in a relationship should always have time to be able to talk about something as intimate as this. First and foremost, it’s because it’s important to know what your partner wants and vice versa. Sexual fulfillment is also very important in relationships. It can be a reason for cheating or breakups…
This is true, others think it’s impossible for something as simple as this to ruin their relationships, but it’s really possible.
No one should ever assume that you already know everything that your partner wants… That’s a recipe for disaster. Men sometimes assume that in women, especially those who have had a lot of experiences in the past. Seriously, most of those men are terrible in bed because they think every woman is the same. I can’t even explain how much of a disaster the experience really was, because it’s really crazy. Take the time to get to know what you partner wants and needs. Let them do the same for you as well.
True. Everyone is different and we can’t always think that they’re the same as someone else.
I never thought of this. I just don’t know how to open up regarding this topic because it might surprise him.