The power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn’t be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their fantasies to anyone. Others are scared they won’t be able to fulfill them, so they’d rather not open pandora’s box.
In an open and healthy relationship, fantasies can provide the much needed escape from reality. Openly sharing these inner secrets with your partner unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always better to know the secret sexual desires of your partner than it is for him (or her!) to keep them locked inside. Awareness is power.
Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time, most can’t describe the fantasy in detail. Remember: detail is a major key to fantasies. When your partner is visualizing his (or her!) ultimate sexual encounter, he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of extreme importance. Knowing that his innermost secret desire is a threesome is not enough. Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.
The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lover’s wildest fantasy?
First and foremost, realize that he (or she) may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Assure him that breaking down this barrier will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy and will help build a solid, unified relationship.
Once you’ve assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. To get him talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening? What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.
A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him (or her). Enjoy!
Thank you this will really help me. I’m so shy in telling my partner about my sexual addiction. I so embarrassed that he may don’t understand me.. I feel frustrated about this but thanks for this info I really think I should talk to him about this.
This topic is way too Sexy!!!?
GIVE and TAKE!!! You should both know how to pleasure each other’s sexual desires.?
Do what you can do to make Him/Her satisfied in His/Her sexual desires. Compliment their efforts to for making you happy in your sexual needs.
You will get want you want in SEX if your shy to tell wannt you want to your partner. You should express everything to him so that he can adjust to your needs.
This Topic is so HOT!!! I think my boyfriend will get a great sex later!!! hahaha thanks for the advices!
Talking in bed is one of our hobby. Me and my partner talk about anything ofcourse including sex. The position that we enjoy and when when is the time that he and me gets HORNY! I love that conversation. It reallly proves how we love and enjoy each others sexual desires.
Yes me too! It also proves how close you are and how you know each other well.
It’s very important for you and your partner to have an understanding about your sexual desires. It can help to make your relationship more exciting and also it can make your relationship strong as you know everything to your partner and you are the only one that can him/her happy.
This is right you must know your partners sexual desires so that he/she will go crazy for you and only you!
It’s really awkward for us girls to talk about our sexual fantasies! I don’t know I m not really comfortable to talk about that. Well maybe when I get married i will be that open to my partner.